To give a short background. We were off and on dating for about six months before making things 'official.' We continued to be a bit of a rollercoaster over the next year or so, going from small breaks to great periods together. But as it sits now, a break turned into a complete break up and we've been broken up now for about three to four months. I was hanging out with her the other night, as we are still friends, and got to talking about things. At one point she said (in context regarding significant others), 'I wish I could combine qualities of one person with qualities of other persons.' To which I replied, 'why? Is that not what makes everyone unique?' I left soon there after and have been thinking about what she said. At times in the relationship it felt as though she was manipulative in ways she communicated. Looking back on things after breaking up with her, it seemed to me that she was in fact attempting merge who I am with who she thinks I can be ... if that makes sense ... which perhaps leads into her comment. I guess my question is, why would someone say this? What would your response have been? Ultimately, you take the good with the bad, right? And if the person you are 'seeing' is not exactly what you want, ie you are wishing that that person had qualities found in other people, then perhaps that person really isn't for you, right?