FRK Single guy looking to swing...

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  1. phoenix1105

    phoenix1105 OT Supporter

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    I will start with a little background - I am 26 and have had only one girlfriend/ While we were together we went to swingers clubs and had a blast. Eventually I left her because she was stealing money out of savings account.

    Anyway, is it accepted for a single guy to go to clubs? The net says that select guys are admitted for a a huge price. The money isn't that important, but I want to be in that scene again. Any suggestions?
     
  2. TigreTek

    TigreTek omega member OT Supporter

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    find a single female and use her to get in the door.
     
  3. carpet muncher

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    :werd: That's definitely the best option if you can make it happen. I got into the scene when I was single and went by myself to a club just to see what it was all about. I was very lucky, however, because I met a couple there that sort of adopted me and brought me into their own private swinging circle of friends. I visited them regularly for about a year until I met my future wife (not through swinging).

    If you do go by yourself DON'T be "that guy". Anytime you go to a club that allows singles you'll see a pack of them roaming from area to area just gawking at the action. They don't make an approach or anything they just gawk. If you're looking to meet a couple I'd recommend a very casual approach. No need to toss out a line like "hey your wife is looking exceptionally fuckable today can I do her?" LOL

    The quicker you disarm the couple the quicker you guys can get into a conversation that defines what you have in common. This may sound trivial, but most of the time this scene isn't like a porn where you walk up, whip out your junk and shove it in the nearest open female mouth without resistance. All of us at a swingers club are a bit freaky but even we have lines drawn in the sand.

    If you get so lucky as to be invited to a room by them, make sure you let them call the shots. If you get over-aggressive you will be alone with your hand before you even know it. Sometimes they will need some time to exhibit in front of you to help them become comfortable. Just kick back and watch until you receive some kind of signal that it's okay to play.

    I know you said you'd been to these clubs before but going as a single guy almost makes you the enemy before you even get in the door. We know you're going to be there. We know what you want. We don't care if you get it or not unless you play your cards right.

    Phew! Sorry for the book but I've spent a decade warming my wife up to this idea and I'm proud to say we've successfully made her comfortable with this stuff. I've seen it from both sides: single guy and inhibited woman.

    Good luck!!
     
  4. phoenix1105

    phoenix1105 OT Supporter

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    thanks for the different perspective...
     
  5. Bubba Atlantis

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    As carpet muncher has pointed out if you are going as a single, you will want to have a casual approach but very open (and not 'creepy'). Sadly (for you), most couples, if looking for a third, tend to look for a female; which reduces your chances further. However, if you are comfortable with yourself and come across as respectful, you increase your chances. I would also suggest reading the situation. If you go up to a couple and start chatting and you can tell they are just not that interested, be polite and nicely leave the situation and wish them a lovely evening. There is no point to attacking a situation where the couple is not interested, or, as carpet muncher pointed you, you become 'that guy'.

    I would also suggest checking out local clubs where the primary purpose is not swinging. Sometimes fetish clubs or bdsm clubs are a great place to start and where singles are more welcomed. Moreover, it might provide you with a like-minded friend who you can bring to the event; if you do not have a current friend that would be interested, as CM pointed out.
     
  6. DUCY

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    I'm a single male who likes to play with couples and sometimes it can be difficult to find what I'm looking for. I don't mind one time deals but I would prefer to find a couple that I could be with at least once a week. I used to be involved with a really great couple earlier this year but they moved to Florida during the summer so I am again looking for a bi couple to play with.

    The first time I met that couple for dinner and drinks they were supprised when I showed up. They said most guys flake out and never end up showing up. I found that a bit odd but I can see how it would happen.

    Man I miss those two....
     
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    what area are they from? this sounds like fun
     

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