single again. bitter sweet.

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  1. THoC

    THoC New Member

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    some of you may remember this. pretty much a year ago my gf broke it off w. me after 2 yrs bc "she lost the spark". she is now 23. i was her first RS longer than 6 months. first person she ever lived with. etc...

    after 2 months of us being broken up she asks me back. i go against my own rule of taking an ex back.

    about a week ago i start to sense the same "feeling" i was getting about a year go from her.

    i decide not to question her. didnt want to sound insecure or paranoid.
    i keep getting the feeling and think "im normally right about my gut feeling". so a few hrs ago i sit her down and ask her. yup i was right.
    she loves me blah blah blah... doesnt know if she wants to be w. me forever blah blah blah. i stop her and say "we are better off a part. i dont doubt that you love me as in care for me, but you are not in love with me. its time for us both to move on".

    im giving her until the end of the week to get her stuff out of my house.


    its bitter sweet bc although it sucks, i no longer have the lingering feeling of "will she do this again?"
    "she left me once. is she really the person i want to marry one day?".

    i was also basically supporting her due to her job loss and her new job paying a lot less. i was letting her live rent/bill free and was even paying for her car ins. this combined w. my uneasiness in the steadiness of the RS' future was stressing me out at times.


    i still care for her very much and wish her well.

    time to move on to yet another page of my life.
     
  2. peoplescar

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    gut feeling is a great thing to go by. I've done it and its always been right even if what you are feeling seems out of this world.
     
  3. ForgottenSpiral

    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    I would say my regular line, but you appear to have already learned that lesson.

    I know it sucks, but you're doing the right thing. :hug:
     
  4. Fook Yoo

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    smart man
     
  5. spydur86

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    :hug: I've found that the stress-free single life is awesome. I was basically taking care of my ex too, given the fact that she didn't have a license or any friends. So yeah, bottom line, weight off the shoulders = stress free living. Go out and have fun.
     
  6. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    :sad2: Sorry man

    I'm glad though, because even though you tried to paint it nicely, she sounds like a real mess as of late
     
  7. THoC

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    yeah. i dont like to talk badly about her. whether she's w. me or not.

    but her losing her job + getting a shitty paying one + DUI = her always broke.

    she's a good person but she needs to get her shit together. she seems to be on her way on that. i wish her well.
     
  8. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    You're a good man. I have no doubts that you will be able to find a great girl.
     
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    :kiss:
     
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    And he's sexy as fuck. :drool:
     
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    haha... thanks :)
     
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    :hug: Sorry to hear about that THoC. You are better off to do this sooner than later though. :hs:
     
  15. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    :werd: I fear meeting him here in Tampa
     
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    you'll be fine brobama :h5:
     
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    lol im harmless, trust me :)
     
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    thank you everyone for the ehugs <3
     
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    :hug: Sorry honey, I wish you all the best. Time will make this easier, and you will find a woman who will love you with every ounce of her being one day.

    God Bless.
     
  20. CorpseStreet

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    Aw that sucks but aren't you glad you said no to her family living with you?
     
  21. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    :rofl: I'm not scared of you, I'm scared I wont stop staring at you

    YES!
     
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    Midgetized Don't mess with Douche Cat

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    same boat bro, let's pull some ladies this weekend, was thinking bout orpheum on Saturday possibly.
     
  24. JOJ

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    least you got more cash in your pocket now :hs:
     
  25. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    so can someone post a pic of this glorious op?

    and iwywb, i'm ashamed of your frisky behavior.

    :mamoru:
     

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