Simple question. What' the deal with my ex's friends?

Discussion in 'Vaginarium' started by tarheel, Jul 9, 2009.

  1. tarheel

    tarheel Guest

    We broke up a year ago. Had a shitty breakup, both of us were seeing someone casually at the end of school. We had one talk before summer came, and we talked about a lot.

    -I'm happy she's casually seeing someone (but I know it won't last, racial issue)
    -She wanted to know about a girl I was seeing
    -I told her there were medical reasons I handled the breakup badly
    -She still talks about me in convo since we did a lot together
    -We both referenced things from our relationship, I admitted that when we do it it brings old times back
    -Gave a hug, but told her we still cannot be friends, just wanted to tell her I wasn't mad at her

    After that, Summer came.

    Friend 1)
    Texts me, "My boyfriend and I are at a concert and you look like NIN's singer"
    I say, "Tell your boyfriend that I saw a NIN signed guitar in NY when I was with my gf the other day"

    No response.

    Two weeks later...
    Friend 2)
    Texts me, "Happy July 4th"
    I said, "Thanks, you too!"
    She said "Thanks Jay, how is your summer going? Hope you're doing well!"
    Me: "It was great until you woke my gf and I up early this morning haha. how about you?"

    No response. A week later I asked her a general question via text, never responded.

    ?
     
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  2. just_another_on

    just_another_on New Member

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    Well, if it went how you typed it, you seem like you were up her ass 24/7...
     
  3. tarheel

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    My ex ended it with me, lost feelings during long distance.

    During school we saw each other on the weekends, that's it.
     
  4. CorpseStreet

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    To me it seems kind of weird you would mention your current gf to your ex's friends, was that really necessary?
     
  5. ForgottenSpiral

    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    We're talking about your ex's friends, right? Why does it matter?
     
  6. tarheel

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    I did it for two reasons - a) it was relevant to the topic (notice the 3rd text I didn't birng it up), and b) I wanted to make it known that I had a gf at the time.
     
  7. XxvODvxX

    XxvODvxX New Member

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    I think your injection of "g/f" is a bit excessive. Not to say to not talk about her but you did not need to add that into your conversation.
     
  8. tarheel

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    Miss her.
     
  9. tarheel

    tarheel Guest

    You're right it was.
     
  10. XxvODvxX

    XxvODvxX New Member

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    I am sure they already knew. but there was no need to throw it in their faces. and the third text was a bit too late to try and make up for the previous text.
     
  11. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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  12. CorpseStreet

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    There's no point in playing games. Besides mentioning you had a gf was not that relevant. Your ex's friends might have seen what you were doing and thought it was stupid then ended the convo as a result.
     
  13. C.W.

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    pretty gay that either of you have to mention your current GFs. Just leave it alone. if you want to reply to her just dont say anything about your GF and tell her to do the same.
     
  14. tarheel

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    I'm not playing games, I dropped the line so that my ex doesn't think I'm still into her.

    What?
     
  15. vodkacollins

    vodkacollins New Member

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    but you are....
     
  16. tarheel

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    Mis-phrashed, I would like to try again with her, but I have no particular feelings. As far as I'm concerned, we grew into two different people, and I'd like to rediscover each other at some point in the future.
     
  17. Lazy D.

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    :ugh:
     
  18. tarheel

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    I did not want anyone contacting me from that relationship unless there were concrete intentions by my ex. I feel I am completely justified.
     
  19. Bob Brown

    Bob Brown bewshit, bewshit, bewshit

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    um..........you keep dropping the "gf" line and it annoys them?

    thy just making small talk with you and you keep acting like you're always busy with ur gf so they don't feel the need to reply.
     
  20. HuskiRuski

    HuskiRuski Cardinal Fan

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    you sound like a huge tool in those texts. like the guy who updates his facebook status updates with things like "going to the movies with my GIRLFRIEND. she's so great!"

    i know its not quite the same, but it is to your ex's friends. they def did the :hsugh: when they read those texts.
     
  21. tarheel

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    I don't care how I look, I was being honest and I did not want them to contact me anymore. I don't want to hear from my ex, unless she has changed, so I dropped the ex line.

    Where did I go wrong besides maybe setting them off a bit?
     
  22. CorpseStreet

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    Wtf are you even talking about? If you don't want to be friends with your ex's friends then tell them that.
     
  23. tarheel

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    That's rude.
     
  24. CorpseStreet

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    You're being a dumbass. You make a thread asking what was up with your ex's friends which implies you care about what they think and now you're talking about how you don't want them contacting you. If you don't want them contacting you stop acting like a retard and just say you don't want them to contact you.
     
  25. CorpseStreet

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    And rubbing in their face the fact that you have a new gf when your ex is their friend isn't?
     

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