Simple advice needed here...

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  1. Handsom3

    Handsom3 Our wrongs remain unrectified and our souls won't

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    Before I start I know that you don't shit where you eat, but my case maybe a little different.

    I've been seeing this girl at work every once and a while and she recently added me on Facebook about 2 weeks ago. Didn't really think much of it, but then last week she messaged me and said something along the lines of we see each other at work, but we never say anything to each other. Ever since then we started talking almost every night for quite a bit, but when we are at work we have short conversations if anything. I catch her all the time looking at me and smiling, but that is about it.

    We seem to have good chemistry online, but we really haven't had a chance to talk or have a serious conversation yet. Also I'm in the process of leaving my job so there is nothing really holding me back from asking her out. I just feel retarded doing it online and feel even weirder asking her out when we haven't talked that much in IRL. Anyways, I'm basically looking for advice on how to talk to this girl more.
     
  2. kiri

    kiri New Member

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    i mean, you know what to do, you're just afraid to do it. just start talking to her in person or call her up and ask her out. sure you might feel awkward at first but if there's chemistry it'll feel natural pretty quick.
     
  3. sportsjunkie

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    well...just talk to her. Ask her to lunch. Or if you are leaving soon, ask her for her number so you can keep in contact and then just call her and ask her out.

    I don't see anything wrong with asking her out via online either :dunno: I mean you two hardly talk at work so it's not that odd.
    Just go for it
     
  4. MattyCakes

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    online chemistry, its that easy now?
     
  5. forgotmyname

    forgotmyname Active Member

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    It's non-existant.
     
  6. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Didn't you just break up with your long time ex who you also work with? Isn't it awkward now if and when you see her?

    I'm asking because it's worth not forgetting when considering dating someone else you work with.
     
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  8. Handsom3

    Handsom3 Our wrongs remain unrectified and our souls won't

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    I switched shifts and work the mornings. Plus like I said I'm in the process of changing jobs within a few months. Also she works in a different department then I do as well as this other girl.


    Most of the people that knew at work have respected our privacy plus the ex and I haven't spoken since the break up. At this point it doesn't really matter what she thinks, she let go so there isn't anything she could say.
     
  9. Handsom3

    Handsom3 Our wrongs remain unrectified and our souls won't

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    Thats what I'm going to try and do this weekend.
     
  10. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    :bigthumb: As long as you are moving forward (leaving jobs) from the ex and maybe have an open mind about where this new little fling could go....it's all good.

    You still thinking of moving though?
     
  11. Handsom3

    Handsom3 Our wrongs remain unrectified and our souls won't

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    Right now my mind is pretty much set on staying where I am. I've wanted to live here long before I was with her and I'm not about to let her ruin that for me. I'm a lot strong now and really found what I want out of my life right now and am working towards living my life the way I want to for a change. I'm much happier now and my friends notice it all the time.

    As of now she is trying to slowly come back into my life, but I'm not letting that shit happen. She blew it away I don't owe her anything now.
     
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    Bruticus half dead OT Supporter

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    :rofl: Completely fake but holy shit I can't breathe.
     
  13. Bruticus

    Bruticus half dead OT Supporter

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    And to the OP - just go up to her desk and ask her to lunch to see how you click IRL. It's not a big deal and she will say yes.
     
  14. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    :hug: so proud of you
     
  15. XxvODvxX

    XxvODvxX New Member

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    That means you'll have to talk to her IRL... Grow a set and talk to her. Internet was just your lead in.
     
  16. Handsom3

    Handsom3 Our wrongs remain unrectified and our souls won't

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    I spoke to her for a bit, she is usually starting as I am getting off. :(
     
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    Did you make the move to get her number, try to make a date? Anything since you obviously can't talk/hang out at work.
     
  18. Handsom3

    Handsom3 Our wrongs remain unrectified and our souls won't

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    No numbers, but I told her I'd like to have an actual conversation with her once. I asked her if this weekend is good and she said she'll check her schedule. I better pull this shit off before I get zoned, I don't need anymore female friends...
     
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    GL and get in there soon... too much time with courting...
     

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