silent sex??

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  1. badlizzykay

    badlizzykay Guest

    maybe this is a dumb problem i shouldn't over-stress (and i'm not). i'm just curious...
    my boyfriend doesnt make any noise during sex. i guess i've seen one too many pornos, but is it normal for him to not make any kind of moan or anything? he did one time while i gave him head...but never again. is this normal?
     
  2. Mojo

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    how long have u guys been together? i know when i was with my ex for the first few months we went out, i tried my hardest not to moan when we did any sexual activity cause im afraid she will burst out laughing and ill be embarssed. but months after, i built up my self esteem and just made noises as they occur cause i now feel very comfortable at that time. i even think its a turn on for me AND her as well.

    but there are times she will still stop and laugh at me when she gives me oral. but i get revenge when she makes these jungle ass noises when we have vaginal intercourse,, but i dont ruin the moment like she does and says it right on the spot. i wait til were done then talk about it. oh well, i guess she does that cause shes still young (17 now)

    BUT their is a possiblity he may not like it when you give him oral. first off, if your grinding his dick with ur teeth, it may be pain. ask him if he really likes it when u give him oral. hopefully he'll come straight and tell u the pros and cons.

    as for the silent part, try playing some soft music while going at it
     
  3. badlizzykay

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    we've been together over seven months now, but he's been away in this rehab/boarding school thing for about 5 and 1/2 of those months. :\
    still going strong though :) he comes home this wednesday.
     
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    Where do you want me baby?!
    I'm sure there is no "normal" way of acting but maybe next time when you see him explain that you like hearing him. So you know that you are pleasing him :dunno: He may also be embarrassed with hearing himself too. Do you make noice when your having sex with him?
     
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    Maybe he's a bit self conscious about it?

    I don't know how he does that though. I'd have to have my mouth taped shut.:rofl:
     
  6. ClaireBear

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    He's been to rehab/boarding school... where he may have had to share a dorm... he'll now be a "submarine" he'll have the ability to "run on silent" no matter how pleasurable the experience... cos no one wants to let the rest of the room know you've just shot your muck!!

    I personally prefer noisey... but can do quiet (ex's parents in the next room)... there is no "norm" as far as sex is concerned... its all good. Just go with it... and if you really would like him to be a tad more vocal tell him... "I'd really like you to let me know in some way when what I'm doing is nice... so I can do it again" etc etc...
     
  7. King Ralph

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    Step on his sack in heels.. he'll 'moan' :run:

    Seriously though, it's normal.
     
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    Maybe you just suck in bed.

    j/k!!!!

    Alot of guys are quiet all the time by nature
     
  9. badlizzykay

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    yeah i make noise during sex. i can't help it...which just made me wonder. plus he's the only guy i've been with.
     
  10. calliz

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    Meh, I'm pretty quiet too. It's just not my style to be loud. Regardless of how good it might or might not feel, my natural reaction isn't to make too much noise.

    Girls on the whole naturally make more noise from the sensation of sex than guys, because their plateau stage of arousal lasts much longer than males. I remember having to sneak into my girlfriend's bedroom in highschool when her parents were home and covering her mouth, with the music up because she couldn't control it. I've never even thought about that being an issue for myself.

    I also think it's pretty corny in pornos when the guy's moan is louder and more constant than the girl's.

    My advice would be to not worry about it. Because if you tell him to make noise, he'll probably end up forcing it. And that'll just become a big distraction from intimacy.

    Do you guys talk dirty to eachother, or even say anything during sex?
     
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    Or you can tell him that it makes you so hot and wet to hear him moaning in your ear.
     
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    Imo it depends on the girl iam with....if shes a screamer ill usally get in to the whole thing and have my loud moments.
     
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    i don't make noise, just not my style. i don't really know any guys that make to much noise, especially during intercourse. i like to hear her there is proof that i enjoyed myself in the end
     
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    I've *trained* myself to be quiet since the days of living at home.... I'm just used to it now - kinda feel like I'm trying to please the girl when I make noises
     
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    i dunno, i dont really make a whole lotta noise most of the time. i guess it's just because i dont really have the urge to moan or groan. it's great sex, feels great, is great, great orgasms. but i just dont myself feeling the need to moan. i'd feel goofy or awkward if i tried. it's not an uncommon thing.
     
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    When my b/f and I are having sex, we don't really moan. Instead, we use mildly erotic talk (I love having you so deep inside me, I love having you fuck me, etc...) It makes things much more interesting and enjoyable.
     
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    i really don't make any noise.
     
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    :rofl:

    you mean the sound a gorilla makes while its beating on its chest?

    :rofl:

    (i know what you mean :o )

    i love it when my wife makes a rackus but im quiet. the only time i moan is when i think it'll somehow make her want to moan more herself. but yeah, when guys jackoff they dont moan cause they don't want to get caught. that might be why we dont make noise during sex either.

    and another thing.... i liked the squeaky little "uhhh...." sounds certain girls made in pornos but my wife is more like a "UHHH UHHHHH UHHH" girl. i somehow managed to learn to love it.
     
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    i can relate, my girlfriend doesnt make any noise either. I was like hmmmmmm the pornos were wrong lol. Btw she was and still is my first.
     
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  21. bclark_79

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    me and my ex hardly ever made noises during sex
     

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