I was having sex with my gf two nights ago. She said she wanted me to fuck her hard. We did it doggy style. At one point she asked me if she had been bad. At first I was just like, "Bad?" Then she asked again a minute later and, interpreting it cautiously as a hint, I said that she had been a little bad. I don't remember how the suggestion came up, but I began slapping her ass while I was going at it, and she liked it. The thing that's bothering me is that I don't know if she was spinning a scene for herself ("I was bad, and need to be fucked.") or if she was genuinely asking me if I disapproved of her partying behavior, hoping to get back into my good graces through sex. I've always discussed with her various desires, including how some people enjoy being degraded during sex. She has outwardly described this kind of sex with mild disdain (whatever, no offense plz). This leads me to believe that MAYBE, she can't openly request things like rough, slightly punishing sex, but instead needs to rely on signals and symbolic language to ask for it. Or maybe she just thought that's what I wanted: for her to give herself to me because I deserved some satisfaction after her improper behavior. Afterwards she described it as some of the best sex she'd ever had. I don't know exactly what to think. If she is into that kind of stuff, I can't stand the whole implicit thing, at least not after the fact. She should be able to say what she likes without being ashamed. Btw, I have no idea what she did that she thought was "bad," if there actually was anything at all.