This is regarding my Wife and her idiot sister. Here's a little back story... My Wife and I have been together for 6 years, our Son is 16 months old. when we found out my Wife was pregnant we did everything on our own. May not seem relevant now as we're adults and expecting parents, so it's pretty cut and dry in my opinion. It's what we had to do. Our son was the first of a lot in our families, first Grandchild on both sides, first Great Grandchild, first everything. Aside from this, I loaned her Mother over 80k for her house, so she didn't lose it and so she could remodel it. We've done everything in our lives ourselves, all we have we earned without the help from anyone. Fast forward from then to late part of 2008, My wifes immature 19 year old sister drops a bombshell, the guy she decided to move out with and play house with are expecting a child. Mind you this girl said from day one I never want kids, I never want to get married, blahblahblah. Well what do you know, all this partying (she partied A LOT, alcohol/various drugs) got her in too deep and she decided to have this baby (which I commend). So all attention focused on her, well more than normal. Her huge mistake has granted her tons of fortune. Of course things didn't work out with the father and she moved back home. Everyone babied her, and bought her EVERYTHING. Pass then to now. She is still living at home, working part time, and her child is about 6 months old. Even though she only works part time, she leaves her child at the babysitter (that the state pays for) every single day working or not from about 7/8am until 6pm. After this, she takes the baby home and more often than not pawns him off on her mom so her and her new boyfriend of the week can go out. Her mom enables it because it's her last child at home. HOWEVER, her mom is remarrying and her fiance also enables and gives in to her. They buy her everything, and pay for her everything anytime we all go out. Any time we are ever around them, she NEVER has the baby, we take him, her mom does or someone else plays with him. Her priorities are herself, and the current guy she is with or going out. This is only the tip of the iceberg. So that's the back story, here's the problem. Any time my Wife and son are over there, or we're around she makes it a point to make my wife feel like she is less of a mother to our child. If my son gets weird when she leaves the room or something like that, she goes "man xxxxxx, your mom will be right back, you need to knock that off... xxxx doesn't do that" or "xxxx takes long naps like he's suppose to" if my son doesn't nap long, or she talks about anything she can that makes her look good. It's getting to the point where my Wife is getting really upset about it when she talks about it with me, and in a way I think she believes some of the things she insinuates or says. Of course this is the furthest thing from the truth because my Wife is an AMAZING mother to my son. The two can't even compare. I'm waiting for the day I catch it blatant and in person because I'm going to go the fuck off. I will straight tell her the reason your child will go to just anyone at any given time happy or sad is because he wants the attention from ANYONE, god forbid our child has a special bond with his mother and wants that specific comfort. Then be like who gives a fuck if your child sleeps through the night at six months old, your mom feeds/baths/puts him to sleep. Fuck just thinking about all this makes my blood pressure go up. What do I do, or what can I say to make my Wife snap out of it? Nothing has worked so far. We've had multiple indepth discussions about her compared to his Sister and what they each do for their children but anytime they're around each other it happens again. It's just really weird and I'm getting sick of it. I don't know if there's a solution, I just wanted to vent to a neutral party and get some suggestions. iballthatshit.