I'm 24 and have a college degree, a house, and a really good paying job. I'm smart and good... err OK at what I do at work. However, I have a few issues that are really holding me back and keeping me from enjoying what I've worked for. I'm really just looking for a place to vent, but any pointers would be greatly appreciated. I am very shy. I don't ever feel comfortable around new people, and avoid large gatherings of strangers like the plague. The reason is, I'm so self-conscious about how I'm perceived when I meet new people. I have this absurd desire that I don't want to make anyone unhappy or give off a bad impression of myself. In actuality, I don't really care what people think of me and if they make their negative impression known, its easier for me to care less. When meeting someone new, I often talk real fast and act overly nervous for no reason at all. I then, almost always, leave a bad impression... Its getting to the point where I'm just avoiding these situations so I don't have to deal with them. I'm coming off as stand offish or arrogant, but its just the shyness. I've always been the type of person with a few good friends, not tons. Moving to a new city a year ago on top of a falling out with some of my college friends has really left me alone. I've met new people up here, but no one that I'd consider a friend or hang out with. It takes a while for me to feel comfortable with someone, and I'm always still conscious that I might say something to fuck it up. However, I don't have these issues nearly as bad once I am comfortable with someone. The most contact I have with other people is just drinking and watching ball games at my house with my neighbor. If he wasn't overly friendly, I probably wouldn't even have that. At work, this is just a disaster. It takes me forever to go ask someone for help, I come off so nervous that people don't really understand me. I always feel like people have the impression I'm wasting their time. Like why the fuck is this person talking to me. I have zero BSing skills with people I don't know, so people never really feel loose and chummy with me. Needless to say, I haven't been in a relationship since college which was a LT deal leftover since high school. I think its getting worse as it persists, and I'm really worrying about my ability to ever have a normal, fun life. As of now, I'm just existing... Anyone ever have a similar problem?