SRS Shouldn't I be upset? v.highschooldrama

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  1. Poundin Mounds

    Poundin Mounds New Member

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    No I am not in highschool, I am 23, though the drama that ensues feels like 8th grade.

    So I have this friend, let's call him Tom.

    Tom has a female cousin our age, and her friends are our age too.

    Tom's family has a party at his house, his cousin brings some of her friends.

    One friend of hers in particular sparks my interest, so in the next few days I mention to Tom we should all get together so I can see her again, to potentially ask her out. This is exactly what I tell Tom, but it never happens.

    Fast forward to Friday night. Last week I was out of town for 10 days...but we all get together at a bar. This girl is there and things seem to be going good. The conversation then gets to her going out with Tom twice, while I am gone.

    Is this fucked up? Tom is my best friend....we do more shit together than we do alone (rec sports, excersise, watching sports on TV)

    I had to hear from her that they went out, yes from her. He was clearly hiding it from me because I asked another good friend and he knew about it. And it's not like he just met her......he has known her for quite some time, and both have been single for the same amount of time as well.

    So Tom is being pissy that night and real drunk, so I take him home. His cousin calls asking where we went and I said i had to take Tom home.

    They ask me to come back over cause they ordered pizza....so I go back over there.

    Tom finds out thru girl that I went over there AND IS NOW PISSED AT ME.


    I haven't talked to him yet, but I just wanted your thoughts before I approach this. Tom is a stubborn, selfish, son of a bitch and I know it won't end well.
     
  2. kackel champion

    kackel champion faces always are changing lies and disguise for th

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    sounds like tom needs to sort out his own issues and grow up

    he probably wouldn't be able to hold a steady loving relationship anyway with any girl, let alone the one you're referring to

    sounds like you don't value his friendship all that much. if this girl is worth more than your 'friendship' with tom, then bounce on him and go after the girl. just be ready for him to try to fight you
     
  3. Poundin Mounds

    Poundin Mounds New Member

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    1.He is too immature to do this....it won't happen.

    2. The thing is, that night, he was trying to cover it up, so by the end of the night she was frustrated/confused....the problem is she was trying to ask me why he is like that...i should of told her the truth, but didn't want the avalanche of drama to fall....

    I do value his friendship...I have known him for 20 years.....good family friends....

    I am going to talk to him later to see what happens.
     
  4. jizzmo

    jizzmo New Member

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    Friends should share.
     
  5. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Your friendship sucks. That's just the honest truth.
     
  6. uneek

    uneek OT Supporter

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    maybe things got started between the two of them before you even met her. just let it go.
     
  7. Lazy D.

    Lazy D. Active Member

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    it's not like she's your gf, it's a fair game.
     
  8. B4 I FU R U 18

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    sounds like you guys need to get out more. plenty of fish in the sea
     
  9. Nhubie

    Nhubie OT Supporter

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    you can't just make claims to every pretty girl you see. He has the advantage, it is his cousin's friend.
     
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    roddick New Member

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    True, but if he told his friend that he wanted to get together with that group again to ask that specific girl out, his friend should have at least told him at that point that he had intentions toward the girl. Needless to say, a friendship of 20 years and family friend--- is more important than some girl you think you may like. Other side of the coin, the friend could have handled it way better imo and if it were me, i would talk about it.
     
  11. Ivan

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    Your friend is immature. I see no reason for him to not be honest with you since the start, and even less reason for him to be pissed at you.

    That said, forget about the girl. And you'll have to rethink if your friend is worth of being called so.
     
  12. Lantis745

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    Real friends would think "eiffel tower". Seriously, over one girl all this shit sparks up? Unless your going to potentially marry this bitch stop cock blocking your best bud.

    And yes you should be a little upset but you should know as a guy your dick becomes your brain sometimes so let your friend off a slap on the hand.
     
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  13. Mars Princess

    Mars Princess They hatin'

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    You know that Tom has known this chick for quite some time, so did you ever stop to think that Tom has been wanting to get with this girl before you but just hasnt' mentioned it? It's underhanded what he did, but maybe he was pressured to make a move before he lost his chance? Or maybe he's really a selfish prick? Has he betrayed your trust on other occasions to the point you have questioned your friendship? Every friendship is going to have rough patches at some point ,but if this is a regular thing, then maybe you want to think about how much of a friend Tom really is if he is hiding things from you and then grows defensive over a girl.

    How great is this girl anyway to where you guys want to fuck each other over for her? Think twice before you throw away a friendship over a girl. Btw, whose to say that she's not as into you as she is in Tom, or not interested at all?
     
  14. Specialist23

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    some of you guys are missing the point, tom is mad at him now.
     
  15. chickenfeather

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    +1, as long as the balls don't touch :mamoru:
     
  16. deleterious

    deleterious OT Supporter

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    if he likes the girl and is pursuing her you should respect that. sure maybe you go after her anyway if its just a friend, but your best friend? fucked up man.
     

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