So there's a girl that works at a local restaurant that I'm interested in. I made a thread about it back in November: http://forums.offtopic.com/showthread.php?t=2889241 I psyched myself out about it for a couple months like I usually do without actually doing anything... last week of January I finally got the balls to ask her out... As we were leaving I went up to her and asked if she was interested in getting lunch/coffee that weekend. I was happy with her initial reaction, she seemed genuinely interested. I had intentions to set up a specific date on the spot there but she actually took the initiative and suggested a particular starbucks at 3 that coming saturday. I asked for her number and she gave it to me. I told her I'd call to confirm later in the week (this was all on wednesday). Friday night I tried calling her and didnt get an answer... I decided to leave a message saying no need to call me back or anything, see you tomorrow etc. Saturday I meet her for coffee. I had intended to pay for her drink but she was in front of me in line and had ordered and already had her money out to hand to the cashier while I was still looking at the menuboard... oops. So we chat, nice simple get-to-know-you conversation about family/hobbies/etc. End up talking for an hour and a half. Pretty easy flowing conversation. I find out that she has a really busy life... has her own consulting business, works at the restaurant part-time to help out (her parents own it), does lots of volunteer work, etc etc. At one point she brings up my phone number (I have an out of state cell phone # from college that I never bothered to change), so I know she got my message from friday, and has my cell # from caller ID or whatever. After chatting awhile she tells me her friend is moving into a new apt that day and she was gonna go see how it was going, etc so we leave. I didn't really have a plan for making a 2nd date on the fly so we just kinda left. I thought it was a nice first date, no amazing fireworks or anything necessarily, but got to know her etc. On tuesday night I tried calling to ask her out the next weekend. Not only did she not answer, but her voicemail box was full, so I couldn't leave a message ("should" you leave a message in this situation? )... only called the one time. The next day we went to the restaurant for lunch like usual and I saw her there... I mentioned that I had tried to call and that she's too popular and needs to clear her voicemail box (playfully)... I told her I'd call her later in the week and she said ok. Thursday night I tried calling again... again she didn't answer, but this time I could at least leave a message. I left a short, simple message asking her to call me back when she gets the chance. Long story short, she never called me back. I had to leave town on short notice for 2 weeks for work right after that. Then when I got back, we randomly didn't go back to that restaurant for a couple weeks straight. So a month+ went by without me seeing or talking to her. Last week we went there for lunch and I decided to be friendly and see how it went. She initiated a brief small talk... As we were leaving, she was busy so I didn't try to talk to her more. heh well I wrote a novel... clearly I'm overanalyzing this (like always)... Basically, is her not calling me back a clear sign that she's not interested? Should I try asking this girl out again or just move on?