Should I send this new girl I'm seeing flowers?

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  1. delussional77

    delussional77 Active Member

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    Backstory,

    I met a girl in my MBA program 2 weeks ago and we hit it off really well. She made the first move and contacted me on FB and has been the first to send lengthy e-mails detailing her life and other things (just basic getting-to-know-you kind of stuff).

    We went on a really great 1st date last night and towards the end of the evening we both made it clear that we liked the other person and were excited to see where this leads.

    So far right now I'm on cloud 9 and I won't see her again until the middle of this week when we have a midterm (so I probably won't be able to talk to her too much). We haven't made official plans for a 2nd date at this point but both were excited about seeing each other next.

    So...my question is..

    I want to send her flowers through 1-800-flowers or FTD at her work tomorrow. I've done this before with g/fs and they have always loved it but never with a brand new girl so early in the relationship. A few of my best friends (both guys and girls) said it would be really sweet but possibly seem desperate.

    OT, please advise :)
     
  2. epracmetcon

    epracmetcon New Member

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    I would wait.
     
  3. haargerman

    haargerman ayuh.

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    yamahajenna New Member

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    I agree with the other two...its a little too early for that and might come off as creepy...girls like flowers, but in the beginning we don't want you to be overly nice.
     
  5. delussional77

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    thanks for the reality check everyone, I'll wait for a more special occasion to give her flowers
     
  6. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    :h5: ;)
     
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    I like to send them in absence of a date. Not in place of a date, per se. But if you got on 3 dates in a week then the following week will only get to see eachother like once, you can send them and it won't be weird and clingy (like if you had spent 3 straight nights together then sent her flowers on Monday at work).
     
  8. Athlete218

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    wait

    girls like a challenge, especially at first. win her over by walking the fine line of confident/cocky....then if you guys become exclusive, send her some flowers later down the road.
     
  9. mattz87

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    This...
     
  10. Diesel66

    Diesel66 My standards for women is like rent-a-centers stan OT Supporter

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    are you fucking insane ?
     
  11. BlackIce72

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    depends on the girl

    if you do this with a lot of girls who are in college you'll get your heart broken

    you'll be the sugar daddy and she'll hook up with frat bros

    but if you're looking to charm the hell out of a girl and aren't some pushover little pansy it could be very effective

    however, eh, now that I think about it if you are not sure if this will work then it wont and I wouldn't
     
  12. BoomBoomBoy

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    Yeah, I'd hold off.
     
  13. wilmateng

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    i think you should just send :) be courageous!
     
  14. kiri

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    getting flowers at work from a guy you've known 2 weeks = :ugh::ugh:
     
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    flowers :rofl:
     
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    :rofl:

    I :love: when I dont have to say anything
     
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    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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  18. moneymoguls

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    IMO...I would not send flowers..candy..gifts. It could send a signal that you are not good enough for her so you shower her with gifts to make up for this.

    I have found that if I "pushed" the relationship like with gifts, frequent phone calls, etc, they back off.

    Try not to be too eager.
     
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    My opinion has sort of changed after thinking about it for a while.

    Because while I have sent flowers a few times (one of those times to a girl's workplace), a lot of guys would do it at really inopportune times. And while each time it was "successful" for me, I suppose you're walking a very fine line.

    All things considered, there are better things to do with that thought and money.
     
  20. THE mister juice

    THE mister juice jfk→sea

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    how bout you send her a smiley face?
     
  21. Viper

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    :rofl:

    Yeah, heaven forbid somebody do something nice for you. :rolleyes:

    That being said, I wouldn't send flower to work. I just think that girls getting all pissy about it is kinda ridiculous. If anything you should be flattered. :ugh2:
     
  22. kiri

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    it depends on the girl too. some girls like getting flowers publicly and being able to show them off, etc. i get embarrassed as hell and would much rather have any amorous displays be in private :o
     
  23. kiri

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    that's not "nice." if a guy i've known for two weeks helped me move into my apartment that would be nice. or if a guy i've known for two weeks bought me lunch, that would be nice. if a guy i barely know sends me flowers, writes me a poem, sings me a song, or performs any other romantic display, it is fucking creepy.
     
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  25. Viper

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    That's because you believe it to be creepy. Not because it's actually creepy.

    If I were you, I'd be more creeped out that a guy you barely know is willing to help you move all your shit into your apartment than some dude giving you a plant that's going to die in like 10 hours. :mamoru:
     

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