should i send this girl a text?

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  1. ballzofsteel83

    ballzofsteel83 OT Supporter

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    i'll keep it short.

    -had sex twice
    -made her cum a few times each time we had sex
    -she's about 5 years older, an attorney, works a ton of hours
    -she's one of my cousin's really good friends
    -sent me a few texts, i only replied a few times
    -wasn't really into her because i thought she would want more than a hookup, i lived at my parents house at the time, was in school, and i was too broke to date at the time.
    -haven't talked to her in a month and a half, haven't gotten laid since then either
    -sent me a text a few weeks ago that i ignored again.
    -my living and finiancial situation are much better now.
    -i'm looking to bone.


    so do i send her a text? or let it go?
     
  2. tqpolo

    tqpolo ***** Platinum Member OT Supporter

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    So in a month and a half, you've moved out, done with school and financially stable? Good job. I don't see why you can't text her for some sexor. If she asks why she hasn't heard from you, be honest and told her how busy you been up to.
     
  3. ballzofsteel83

    ballzofsteel83 OT Supporter

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    moved and got a decent paying job, had to put school on "hold".. i was thinking of apologizing for being shady and telling her i had some stuff to take care of.. i just want to make it as casual as possible while making sure theres no intention of anything serious.
     
  4. Yuppy

    Yuppy Have a seat right there....

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    hit that shit son!
     
  5. BradUF

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    No, you want to wait just long enough so she forgets who you are and then text her.
     
  6. ballzofsteel83

    ballzofsteel83 OT Supporter

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    oh i get it, i have to play hard to get :bigthumb:
     
  7. Yuppy

    Yuppy Have a seat right there....

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    ya you are past that part
     
  8. ballzofsteel83

    ballzofsteel83 OT Supporter

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    yeah i know, my true question is do i start out the text saying sorry for being shady or just a random what are you up to and then go from there?
     
  9. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    i have no idea
     
  10. antihero

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    this is the only reason why you might not want to send her a text. if this isnt a big deal, what do you have to lose?
     
  11. ballzofsteel83

    ballzofsteel83 OT Supporter

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    my cousin is fine with it.. but should she want something more and cause drama there could be a problem with my cousin..
     
  12. antihero

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    "if its got tits or tires, it will give you trouble"

    ... meaning you are not likely to find sex that doesnt come with some sort of hassles or liabilities so this really doesnt sound like a bad idea.
     
  13. CaiWooBlue

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    You say "sorry i havent texted you. i wasnt at a place in my life where i could give the right kind of attention to a deserving girl like you. you have been on my mind, and now that my life has shaped up, if you are willing to, can we give this a try again?"

    You are being honest, you aren't making her feel like a tramp, and it opens the door to find out what she really does want, without committing yourself to more than you want.
     
  14. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    i have a problem with "can we give 'this' a try again"

    not sure why
     
  15. antihero

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    wrong way to approach a fuckbuddy/bootycall setup
     
  16. ware_ru

    ware_ru I know, I know, I'm amazing

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    WHOA. CWB, WHY oh WHY are you giving advice when you clearly have NO fucking clue what you're talking about. lots of that in this thread. As for the op; Why would you let it go? If you can handle the rejection that is (always) possible when going for a girl, why would you ever let it go?
     
  17. Tazerok

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    I wouldn't even mention the fact that you haven't gotten back to her in a while, just send her a text saying "hey it's been a while how are you?" or just call her and don't even mention anything. If she brings it up later then you can just say yea I've been really busy but now everything has calmed down. And as far as her wanting more goes, if it works out after you talk to her and you guys start seeing each other again, just tell her straight up you're not looking for anything serious and go from there. That's my opinion, good luck.
     
  18. Dreams2Reality

    Dreams2Reality saywhat

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    Go put it on smash, bruh.
     
  19. CaiWooBlue

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    well hell i was taking it from a female point of view, even if they want sex, not all want to FEEL like a booty call. point taken, though and i understand. i will back out of this thread now.
     
  20. Yuppy

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    Just say Hey I'm free tonight. You want to kick it.
     
  21. Yuppy

    Yuppy Have a seat right there....

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    A Ware_ru i agree; you dont fuckin apologize to a woman ever.
     
  22. ballzofsteel83

    ballzofsteel83 OT Supporter

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    i'll send her a standard "what are you up to?" and if she doesn't reply, fuck it.
     
  23. Abomb

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    lol, in a relationship... SOMETIMES you should apologize.. if you actually did something wrong of course ;)
     
  24. Abomb

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    this is true if you dont ever want to maintain a relationship with a SO
     
  25. JohnJohnJohnson

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    :werd: what would you text her?
     

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