Discussion in 'Vaginarium' started by StopDrop&LOL, Feb 8, 2007.
I was just thinking of just sending her a txt msg saying "Happy Bday ___"
Is this is a bad idea?
Hard to tell ya if we don't know your history with her...did your relationship ends on good terms or bad, do you still ever talk, how long ago did you date?
The relationship ended on my terms. It wasnt a nasty breakup, but i wouldnt say it was a good breakup. No, we dont talk anymore, because i changed my number and refused to give it to her/call her. We dated for 3.5 years and broke up ~5 months ago. She came by for my bday last month and bought some things. That was the last time i seen or spoke to her.
Im thinking i shouldnt txt her, but thought i would see what OT thought.
Well from everything aside from the last part you said there, I would advise against it, since if you're the one who did the breakup and it was a little messy, then texting her out of the blue will just bring back bad memories et. al for her and not be a great thing to do.
However if you hung out for your bday last month and had a positive time, then sending her a text should be fine on her bday, she'd probably appreciate it.
Ya, last time we hung out was kjinda weird, because i was said some things (mean) that needed to be said, but the later part of the time we spent together that night was fine. Im not going to txt her. Im just going to forget i even thought about it. Then come Fri it will be all too late and over with.
do whatever you want dude.. it's tough for us to say yes/no without knowing the whole situation
Why are you wanting to do it? Because you still are trying to be friendly? Or because you would feel guilt not doing it? I think that just because you're thinking of her, doesn't mean it would be in her best interest to know that. What i mean, is, you broke up with her, so maybe she's finally moving on and it would be better if you just let it go. But, like said above, if you hung out since and things seemed okay, then maybe it'll be alright. You knew her for 3.5 years. Only you know if she really seemed to be over it or not.
lol i have let go. I have no interest in getting back with her. It was more of doing it just to be nice. Honestly, i have no intentions of getting back with her. Just thought it would be a nice thing to do.
don't do it, just let it go.
i didn't mean you had interest in her. I was more concerned with if she had interest in you... not giving her hope or whatever. Alaya already reiterated what i meant...see post above.
Yeah, I'd skip out on it.
ya...im not going to bother...just wanted confirmation from OT
I don't think there's anything wrong with texting her happy birthday
it's a nice gesture
just text "just wanted to say happy birthday, hope all is well"
and leave it at that
since you guys hung out on your bday it would be a nice thing to do
no, ive made up my mind. thanks for the replies
don't do it
If the reasons why you changed your number haven't changed, I would think it would be a good idea not to text her.
Did she pop by on your birthday or did you invite her over? If the former, it may have been a way for her to reconnect with you, if the latter, and it means the two of you are on good terms, then that might indicate some contact is alright.
Why would you want to? Why give her a false sense of hope?
Nice guys finish last. Remember that. Stop being "niiiiice" and you'll be better off.
You know the answer to this my nig
I always ask myself "What do I hope to accomplish by this action?"
i expected one from my ex then at the end i wrote "did u forget somethin" and he replied "what" i said "to care bout someones bday" and he was gay enough to just write "happy bday" after that
He's your EX for a reason.
so you guys aren't together, yet you still expect him to care about your bday? were you still friends? did you have any other contact?