Should I propose if neither of us are sure where we will be in several years?

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  1. fixthe fernback

    fixthe fernback New Member

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    My gf is in grad school now for 2 years. My job has me in a new location ever 1.5 years for 4.5-6 years... I have no idea where I will be in 6 years or even 2 years. She doesnt know where she can get a job after college... I love her and want to marry her, but we are both uncertain about the future...

    what should I do?

    also, has anyone else married their first serious girlfriend?
     
  2. jonno

    jonno New Member

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    uhhhh. if you are 100% sure she is the one and she is 100% sure you are the one get married. you'll move for her or she'll move for you. don't worry about it.
     
  3. JBunni

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    I think life comes down to what is important to you. If you are willing to make her your first priority, and she is willing to put you first, then yes. If you both rather have careers, then no. (not that you both cant have careers, but I think it works better if you have 2 established careers, not 'going in different directions')

    I am marrying my first serious boyfriend. Hasn't happened yet, so I couldn't tell you how well it worked out, not yet anyway. :x:
     
  4. jonno

    jonno New Member

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    this dude from the gym i know moved for his wife's career since she was the bread winner. now he stays at home and watched the kids and just lifts weights while she's at work. livin the dream :bowdown:
     
  5. Viper

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    I really have no idea why people propose when they don't have a very specific target date in mind. :dunno: (and by target date, I don't necessarily mean a specific day, just a specific month give or take when it's for sure going to happen)
     
  6. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    No

    Why would you need to propose right now when you both are unsure? That's a horrible idea.

    Edit-Haven't you guys only been together like a year or something?
     
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    jonno New Member

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    i agree. i hate when you ask someone who's engaged when the wedding is and they have no fucking clue.
     
  8. fixthe fernback

    fixthe fernback New Member

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    year and a half. and the earliest i would think about proposing would be next summer. We just spend 3 weeks together and I loved every minute of it. I will see her again on labor day and then not again until thanksgiving...
     
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    didnt realize it has only been a year and a half. definitely wait... longer than next summer
     
  10. BoomBoomBoy

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    Marriage is tough enough when you have a plan.
     
  11. Phantom

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    Marrying your first serious girlfriend is generally a bad idea.

    There will be stories of how it worked for others, but the odds are not in your favor.

    Think of it this way... what will prevent you from getting married in 6 years if everything between you two is good? You guys can work together like a married couple and if you last the next 6 years, that will be at least a sign that a longer marriage could work.
     
  12. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Ahhh ok, well that's pretty important info.

    Let's put it this way-you have plenty of time. Take it day by day. If by next year you're feeling more secure of your relationship, where you'll go, etc. THEN take the next step :dunno:
     
  13. Diesel66

    Diesel66 My standards for women is like rent-a-centers stan OT Supporter

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    what's the point of proposing now ?
     
  14. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Or even thinking about it. Again, take it day by day.
     
  15. Midgetized

    Midgetized Don't mess with Douche Cat

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    Wait, it's an LDR too? And your first relationship? And you've only been together a year and a half?

    Yeah marriage should be the farthest thing from your mind right now :o Wait until you live by each other and have a regular relationship and live together before you even think about marriage.
     
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  17. fixthe fernback

    fixthe fernback New Member

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    it only recently became long distance... you guys are all right though
     
  18. Kinks

    Kinks Sup. OT Supporter

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    A little blunt but I have to agree 100%. Being married certainly wouldn't make an LDR any easier, you are better off keeping things as they are and wait and see what happens over the next couple of years. You are better off living together for several months before even considering taking the big leap.
     
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    she have a sister? :rofl:
     

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