Should I let it go or try to salvage a friendship?

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  1. shorty420

    shorty420 Guest

    Here's the story. I've known this one girl for about 6 months, she dated my friend in high school but we never knew each other then. I ran across her phot on FTJ and sent her a message. We hit it off great and have been hanging out for the last 6 months, but pretty much as friends because she has had a boyfriend. They broke up a month ago. We started talking about relationships and all that stuff and had a great 2 hour conversation about life and where we are going. I kept hinting that I was going ask her out, but I won't do it online so I waited until I was hanging out with her at her apt again.

    I finally asked her out last week and we set a date for last night, I saw her a few times that week just hanging at her apt watching movies and stuff, and everything seemed to be cool. I even saw her about 5 hours before I was supposed to pick her up to go out and she says "I'll call you around 8 when I am ready and u can come over" when I am leaving which I took as a good sign that she was serious about going out.

    Well 8 rolls around and I'm not anxious or anything, but then 8:30 rolls around so I decide to call her to see if something came up, keep in mind we have been friends for 6 months so it's not like I am stalking her, and no answer. At this point I am still calm but am starting to think about why she is ignoring me. 9 rolls around and I'm tired of sitting at home so I leave the house and drive by her apt hoping she is there and just getting ready still and can't answer the phone, but I drive by and she is not home and all the lights are out. So fuck it I go to my homeboy's house and hit up some Crown and Coke.

    I get home about 2 in the morning and see her signed onto AIM. It's not unusual for her to be on at 2 in the morning, so I sent her a message. No reply so I just sign off. This morning she is still signed on and won't reply to my messages, i know she is home and using it because her computer goes on standby in like 5 minutes, and automatically puts on an away message if she closes the screen on her laptop.

    I know she will call me because she always wants something from me, but what should I do when she calls? Blow her off completely like she did to me? Tell her how I feel and that I can't be her friend anymore if this is how she treats her friends? Try to salvage a friendship? Let it go? I'm at a loss as I really care about her and don't want to lose her but at the same time I feel crushed because we had made plans a week in advance and even confirmed them 5 hours before, but she blew me off anyway.
     
  2. CPipes

    CPipes Shit definitely just got real!! OT Supporter

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    I know exactly how you are feeling right now. I was talking to a girl a couple weeks ago who did the same shit to me, TWICE. What took the cake was, we were supposed to hook up one night. I called her and told her i was leaving my house and i would be around her house in like 20 min. I called her when i was like 5 min away from the place we were supposed to meet at and said "i'll be there in 5 minutes" she said "alright". I and i'm pretty sure everyone else would take that as she's gonna meet me there. I get there and sit and wait. I call her and she doesn't pick up. I called every five minutes and no pick up. The next day she hits me on aim and says she fell alseep :hsugh: . Who the fuck lays down when they are supposed to be getting ready to meet someone???

    My only suggestion is don't burn your bridges. Don't try to actively mend the relationship but don't totally cut her off either.Definately tell her how fucked up it was how she did you and that from now on if she wants to do something she can call you. I'm almost sure she's gonna give you some bullshit excuse of what happened, but unless something truely truely tragic happened, there is NO excuse for her not being able to call you for 10 seconds and let you know what happened.
     
  3. Sionell89

    Sionell89 I grew up when I wasn't looking

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    Yup.

    Don't be a pussy to let her treat you like that.
     
  4. shorty420

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    The really shitty part is that I was over there monday night and left my dvd player over there, so I would like to at least get that back. She has not returned any of my calls so far today, I went to her house and she was home, but did not answer the door. I heard the tv playing loudly so I knocked even louder so I know she heard me. I'm really at a loss as I'm broke and would like my DVD player back, but at the same time I don't want her to call the police on me for harrasment even though she technically has stolen my DVD player.
     
  5. ISO9002

    ISO9002 New Member

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    Damn...this shit happens all the time to my friends....lucky me...i never get that YET!!!

    Would any girl explain this to us? I'm helpless when my friends call me and tell me that...I feel really bad for them...but nth i can say to help them...
     
  6. shorty420

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    Yeah I was really hoping a female would chime in a give me some kind of insight as to why they do these ridiculous things like this but I guess I am not that lucky as you can tell from my story.
     
  7. teo

    teo . => ? => !

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    I'm a woman and I've never done that to anyone. That's just plain rude. Next time you speak to her, make arrangements to get your DVD player back, then end the conversation unless she has a reasonable explanation for her behavior. Personally if someone did that to me, I'd get my stuff back then forget about them - playing mind games is not on my list of fun things to do.

    You say she'll call because she always wants something from you? Hold that something ransom for your DVD player.
     
  8. shorty420

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    It's been 4 days now and still no sign of her. I added her as one of my friends on myspace, hopefully I can get a response out of her there. This is just so perplexing and utterly confusing. I have been burned by girls before, but I sort of saw it coming every other time, this time everything seemed perfect, like nothing could go wrong or get in the way. Oh well, I'm now just trying to learn something from this experience, but the only thing I have come up with so far is that women will manipulate you any way that they want to, and when they are bored with you they will toss you aside like a piece of trash and forget you ever existed.
     
  9. the ground folds

    the ground folds rest your trigger on my finger

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    let her go, she isnt worth shit
     
  10. shorty420

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    Yeah I'm past that now, I just want my farking dvd player back is all.
     
  11. PuppyCat

    PuppyCat O.T. Mom

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    Cut your losses and move on.
     

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