Should I just keep my mouth shut?

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  1. ww_Crimson

    ww_Crimson New Member

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    Two close friends that I work with have been "talking" lately. Guy wants to get laid and that's really it. No intentions of asking the girl out because she has some baggage and he doesn't want to deal with it, although I do believe he sincerely likes the girl.. just doesn't want her problems. They've been seeing each other for a few weeks now and the girl is really starting to develop interest in the guy. She doesn't want to put out until they're in a relationship and doesn't know the guy has no intentions of asking her out.

    Do I intervene and tell him that he should stop leading her on just to get laid?
    Do I tell her he just wants to get laid and has no intentions of asking her out?
    Do I keep my mouth shut?

    I'd consider them both my friend equally.
     
  2. ASoT

    ASoT New Member

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    How is he leading her on?
     
  3. Lucky Penny

    Lucky Penny Mr. cut me some slack cause I don't wanna go back,

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    I was a freshman in college when I met this guy who was friends with best friend's SO. He flirted with me all the time, he seemed like a great guy blah blah blah. My best friend's SO pulled me aside one night and said, "Look, Mike is one of my best friends but I have to be honest with you, he's only looking for a one night stand. He's got 3 other girls he's been fucking around with. Just looking out for ya..."

    I really appreciated that. I liked this guy a lot and had I not known what he was all about I would have been pretty hurt. I thought it was a nice move. :dunno:
     
  4. ASoT

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    Is it possible that Mike sent him to tell you to find out your reaction to it? Maybe he wanted to find out if you were down or not...
     
  5. Lucky Penny

    Lucky Penny Mr. cut me some slack cause I don't wanna go back,

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    :rofl: potentially, but I don't think either of them were that smart
     
  6. djshotglass

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    I say tell the girl she has a right to know.
     
  7. fray

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    If you're equal friends, I would mention something. Be prepared for it to get back to him.
     
  8. XaPU!M

    XaPU!M Active Member

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    WTF. They are both adults (I'm assuming they're over the age of 18). Keep your nose out of their business.
     
  9. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    tell the guy to be upfront
     
  10. MattThom01

    MattThom01 New Member

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    that's really the most you can do. If you try to tell the girl directly, she could go into denial (since she wouldn't want to hear it), or will just get mad at you for butting into her business.
     
  11. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    I say tell the guy to tell her what's up.

    He shouldn't lead her on and at least be honest and say he's "not looking for a relationship." Once he does that you're out of the picture and it's up to her to decide their fate.
     
  12. chloe

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    Tell them both separately. If they're both equal friends, they both deserve to know.
     
  13. jmezz

    jmezz layin in bed stretchin my pumped quads for hours

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    Yeah until something goes wrong and they both come back at you for getting inbetween them.

    Horrible idea.

    Make mention that the guy should tell the girl what's up beforehand and then be done with it all.

    Gotta look out for yourself in these situations too.
     
  14. Yail Bloor

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    sounds to me like she's leading him on
     
  15. Yail Bloor

    Yail Bloor OT Supporter

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    stay out of it

    for my edification, will you please clarify what "seeing each other" mean? TIA
     
  16. Simple

    Simple Sexy Beatch

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    keep your mouth shut. its not your place nor business.
     
  17. JamesL

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    Jesus christ... why the fuck are you even considering "intervening"? :ugh:

    To me, it sounds like you have a thing for this girl... so you are considering cockblocking your friend. That's the only reason I could think of for a guy to want to shut their friend down like that.

    What were you even gonna say to the girl? "hey... umm... mike isnt interested in asking you out, he just wants to get his dick wet!"

    For all you know, your friend could be talking shit... and after they go on a few dates he'll fall for her and theyll have a nice relationship.

    Either way, stay out of it. It isn't your business. No one likes a busybody.
     
  18. bowrofl

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    I think it depends on how good of a friend you consider the girl, and if you value her friendship over the guy's... if you do, then go ahead and help her out. If not, stay out of it.

    I'd only let the girl know if we were pretty close though... basically, it comes down to how much you care about these people.
     
  19. Alexqzilla

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    Never assume you know what everyone else is thinking, and especially never act upon that assumption... She can handle herself and if she can't, she'll be able to next time
     
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    Just keep an eye on them, there's no sense in unsheathing your sword and putting yourself into it. What are you going to accomplish? You can lose both friends! ABORT
     
  21. JamesL

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    Bingo. Not only that, but word gets around that you are a nosey gossiping motherfucker.
     
  22. vodkacollins

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    i wouldnt bring it up to either of them

    however, if either of them approach you about the other, you can give your opinion, but also tell them that they should discuss it with each other, since you really dont know for sure
     
  23. KindlyCuddly

    KindlyCuddly Irina Lazareanu

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    huh? if he wants to get laid, and she won't put out unless they're committed then he's certainly going the wrong way about just getting laid.
     
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  25. _A_

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    Keep your mouth shut.
    He could just be trying to act tough and saying he just wants to get laid - when he really is soft and wants a relationship.
    She could just not want to be viewed as a slut so she says she wants a relationship but really she just wants to sleep with him.

    Unless they contact you about the situation, I would let it be.
     

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