should i even meet her? I say no my co worker says yes?

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  1. quamen

    quamen New Member

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    one of my co workers has a pretty attractive grand daughter that is 21 years old. Im 25 years old and dont do to grreat for myself, but im still finishing college and kinda struggling with finances. I work hard and keep pushing at my goals everyday,but that is besides the fact. His grand daughter on the other hand is come kinda of advanced computer specialist, own her own home already and does very well for her age. He says he thinks im a good guy, but i keep telling him i really dont think she would be intersted in me. Were at two different stages of life, and i kinda even feel embarrased to meet her because of our differences. Should i just cancel it?
     
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    If you feel like you're at two different places and would want different things from the relationship and would have different expectations, then maybe cancel. But how do you know those things without meeting her? Maybe she works hard, but likes to come home to someone that cares and just relax and wouldn't care where you are at, as long as you know where you are trying to go. I'm still in school and struggling financially and my boyfriend has a good job, owns his own home, and is doing well and we do fine. It's not like I'm a lazy slob sitting around and eating all his food while doing nothing. He knows that when I finish, I will also contribute and that I have goals, etc.

    I can see your point, and how you'd be embarassed due to typical gender roles, but why pass up an opportunity? You have no idea how she'll react until you meet her, unless you have heard stuff about her from the coworker that makes you think otherwise.
     
  3. Yail Bloor

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    You've got to stop beating yourself up like this.

    If you don't feel good about yourself, how can you expect others to do the same?

    How is that besides the fact? Those are very good traits that not every man has these days.


    Well of course her grandfather is going to talk her up. And I doubt she owns her home, most likely the bank owns it.


    You probably should. She is going to pick up on your feelings on inadequacy and it probably won't go well for you.

    I'd recommend leaving women alone altogether until you figure out how to feel good about yourself.
     
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    I agree with this. From my point of view, a guy who is finishing his education, working, and pushing towards goals is a much better catch than someone who has an average job and is content with not driving himself forward.

    As for meeting her, I think you should do it. She might turn out to look past your differences in the point in your lives right now, she may not. You don't know it until you try. Worst case scenario: You hang out with someone new for a few hours.
     
  5. Gregsaidthat

    Gregsaidthat "Individuality is the new conformity"

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    Look at me for example.

    23/M College student(pay for it myself) Work like 20 hours every two week.

    All advanced classes. No time to work spend most time doing homework.

    Just met someone who doesn't care about my fiances or anything like that.

    Since her ex makes 3400 a month.

    I look at it like I am getting an education living life to the best and having a good time when I can.

    Don't beat yourself up over this.

    Just go out on the date have a good time.

    Laugh, smile make her do the same!

    Everything will fall into place!

    If you don't get a relatioship out of it, you will end up with a good friend!
     
  6. ArthurPewty

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    To me, this might be the only thing you've mentioned that could impede the development of a long term relationship. However, it doesn't sound like you've even spoken with the grand-daughter, so you don't know what stage of life she's at.

    Don't cancel anything. And don't go into it thinking that your relationship with this woman has to be anything specific. Have a fun night. It's okay to date casually, nothing serious, in a way that works with your schedule. She might not be cool with that, but then again, she might. You'll never know if you always find excuses not to.
     

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