Should I Be Worried??

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  1. sdubz

    sdubz New Member

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    im dating this girl....and we got into a fight last night because she said i was being insecure...i admit i was. I told her id work on it...

    anyways she needed to vent when she was mad at me last night and she went to this guys X's house (who is just her friend)....she told me today that X is the guy she cheated with on her last boyfriend...that kinda made me WTF? in my head because she went to his place last night.

    she is out of town but coming back tomorrow because she goes to school 5 hours away... and she just texted me that she wants to stay in tonight but she promised X that she would hang out with him...

    wtf? am i being insecure or should i be worried?
     
  2. Poopshoot

    Poopshoot New Member

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    Is this a serious post? Yes you should probably be worried. She pretty much just told you she cheated on you.
    She went to 'vent'? Seems fishy
     
  3. Deborah

    Deborah Seeing is believing, but I don't want to know.

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    yes, you should be worried. She is an idiot. She tells you she cheated with him and expect you to be ok with it? how long have you two been together?
     
  4. sdubz

    sdubz New Member

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    what should i do??
     
  5. Deborah

    Deborah Seeing is believing, but I don't want to know.

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    talk to her, say your concerns and see what she has to say.
     
  6. sdubz

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    dating for four months now
     
  7. 540guy

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    Sometimes you have the right to be insecure. Don't let a female who cheats tell you that being insecure is a problem. Some females will lie, cheat - do whatever they want basically - and then blame you for it. Or you're the insecure one, etc. I know this.

    She cheated. Shes a weak person. Get out of there now. GET OUT.
     
  8. ChipOnShoulder

    ChipOnShoulder New Member

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    She sounds flaky as fuck, and maybe you are right to be insecure.

    I hope you know the difference between insecurity that is your fault, and insecurity that is justified. This case sounds like the latter, given that you yielded to her accusation so easily.
     
  9. sdubz

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    im on the phone with her and she said they are going to go on another adventure and maybe watch a movie


    wtf!

    what should i say to her?
     
  10. blink me

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    say "see ya later" and move on.
     
  11. Deborah

    Deborah Seeing is believing, but I don't want to know.

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    :werd: and I say it because it does not seem to be like the typical guy friend situation.
     
  12. sdubz

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    how should i go about this break up?

    she is flying up here from her school to see me, friends, and family tomorrow...
     
  13. Bi-Polar-Bear

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    Ok so she admitted that she cheated on guy A with guy B? She is going out with you now and still insists on seeing Guy B?
    Dam straight you have a reason to be worried! She admitted that she cheated on someone and now she expects you to believe that Guy A is all of a sudden nothing more than a friend?

    Abort! (make sure you hate fuck the fuck out of her before the breakup and break the to her news afterwards...)

    Btw, there is nothing wrong with being a little insecure once in a while. This girl is the prime example of why you always have to stay cautious.
     
  14. Jack Horner

    Jack Horner Guest

    Motherfucking WORD

    DUMP HER
     
  15. HuskiRuski

    HuskiRuski Cardinal Fan

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    it's a long distance relationship. she's making you insecure because of her behavior.

    do yourself a favor and stop suffering for 80% of your relationship with her, only to see it end with her cheating on you or dumping you down the road.

    break up with her.

    btw, going off a hunch here...you're kinda insecure in general, and think this girl is above you. you stay with her because you think you can't do better, or just think you got a great catch. rather than pursue a healthier relationship with someone who isn't 5 hours away, you stay with her because the idea of being with her makes you feel good about yourself. she either senses this, or is just not into the relationship in general, so she treats you accordingly. you don't break up with her, because you think you have too much to lose, so you're constantly trying to make this 'relationship' survive.

    believe me, you will be happier out of this relationship than in it.

    (that last part is a hunch. the rest i'm confident about).
     
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  16. sdubz

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    thanks a lot everyone...i just talked to her on the phone and she sounded like she just got fucked...haha

    im not even mad im glad this is over and i can really enjoy my summer now
     
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    sorry to hear that man, hopefully it all works out.
     
  18. Deborah

    Deborah Seeing is believing, but I don't want to know.

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    why do you say that?
     
  19. sdubz

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    she sounded like she just woke up and shit and she was still there...
     
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    just_another_on New Member

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    You're an insecure person, you knowingly admit this and admit to trying to better yourself about it.

    She knows you're an insecure person because you've relayed this message to her...

    If she knows this and continues to tell you shes gonna be hanging out with 'X', shes either testing you or pushing you to break up with her. Why would she tell you that 'X' has been 'the other guy' before? Thats almost like a slap in the face, especially after she tells you shes been hanging out with him.


    Run. Run and Dont look back.

    Its not worth the time/effort/frustration in this situation. If being insecure is something you want to work on, constantly having your limits pushed will only stress you.
     
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  22. chlywly

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    Ummmm lol are you kidding me??? LOOL, broseph NO you're not being insecure, sounds like you're being manipulated and taken for quite the ride though...
     
  23. tarheel

    tarheel Guest

    Dump her like a man. "This is over..." and that's it.
     
  24. GanglyGoodness

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    Sounds like has already or is planning on cheating on you by telling you that this is the same guy she cheated with in her last relationship.

    Sounds like your relationship is already over.
     
  25. XxvODvxX

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    :io:

    Everyone already got this covered....Abort...
     

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