My girlfriend and I have been together for a year and a few months. Everythings been great, I'm truely in love with her and her me. Some major things have happened in her family over the past week (Father had a heart attack) and things are getting back to normal now. She had mentioned that she had sent out a big email to all of her friends informing them of what had happened. While telling me about this she mentions that one of our friends had already replied and passed along her best wishes, etc. This morning my girl got called into work and I just got up. I get on my girl's computer, her email comes up (It's web based and her homepage) and there's our friends reply. I figure "what the hell" and click on it to see what she (Friend) had said. Read it over, it's very nice and heart felt. Now I'm left wondering what my girl had sent out to everyone so I click on her Sent folder. The mass email is there about her father and one other. I read her mass email and go back to the Sent folder. This other email has a name that catches something in my memory. It's a guy she used to date 2 years ago while she was living in a different state. She's told me about him and made him out to be a strange guy and that's why she left him. I knew I shouldn't click it but I did. It was an email updating him about the major going ons in her life which normally wouldn't bother me but there were some other lines that kind of have me : "Hello stranger.... I have missed you so much and wanted to fill you in on things happening around here. (Info on things in her life) I miss you (name).....I know you will probably never speak with me again....but I still miss you. We had some great times together. I am sorry that it didn't work for us. I hope you and your family are doing great. Please.....if you ever have some extra time to write and let me know how you are doing, I would really appreciate it. Love," Now as far as what I've been told, there really shouldn't be any reason for her to be missing him, but this email makes me wonder. I'm not worried that she's going to run away and be with this guy, he's 1200 miles away and she can't just up and move, but I still don't like that she sent the email. There was no mention of us and the great times we've had. My question to the women of OT is, do you ever have feelings for your old flings even when you're in a great relationship years later? Why is she still upset that things didn't work out for them when she's in a perfectly good relationship now? Am I over reacting or am I kind of in the right to be upset? We talk about everything but of course there's no way I could bring this up to her. Give me some insight.