So New Years I went out with my cousin and her fiance. I met one of his friends who I knew OF before because he worked in my company but I had never met him. He hung around me the whole night and he was really sweet. Seemed like a great guy but when he wasn't around everyone (and I mean everyone) told me to drop him. That he was a wild guy for what I'm used to and he drank too much... He didn't seem that way at all. So I trusted what they said and I started giving him less signals that I was interested. I was still nice but... didn't lead him on. (For the record I noticed that night that he didn't drink the whole night which confused me after what everyone was telling me.) Well... my cousin got married last weekend. He and I both were in the wedding. He was hitting on me at the rehearsal and sat with me for some of the dinner again. Again... I didn't lead him on but I was nice to him. I am really attracted to him but I don't want to get with someone who doesn't have all their shit piled in one place. He seemed like he gave up the day of the wedding...which I figured was for the best. My cousin asked the next day if I met any cute guys that hit on me and I just said that he had a few times and kept me company when everyone else was smoking. She told me that he'd been crushin on me since New Years and to give him a chance! I was like... "WHAT HAPPENED TO FORGET IT, DON"T MESS WITH THAT!" She said he has seemed to mello out a LOT and stopped drinking completely on his own. She said that she thought it was because he had given up his girlfriend because she gave him an ultimatum. Her or drinking and he chose drinking and she thinks that he regretted that and thats what made him stop. She said... not because he wants her back but because he realized losing her meant he needed to get himself straightened out. He also was seeing people didn't want to be around him when he drank anymore. She said, "He didn't drink New Years, we went out with him on St Patty's and he went to the bachelor party and didn't drink at any of them at all." He did however have a couple drinks at the wedding but was not drunk by any means... She said he gave up because I shot him down. Cliffs: People told me to not get involved with their friend because he was a crazy drunk. He has cleaned up for 7 months and they are ok with it now. Should I call him? Should I wait and have her tell him why? I don't think he understands why I gave him the cold shoulder. Should I not get involved at all?