Its hard to know where to begin on this one. I guess with a little background information. I am 20 years old, white male, very intelligent, overweight (but still somewhat cocky), middle-class in a wealthy area. I have been overweight all of my life except for a ~2yr. stint in high school when I did the low-carb bit. Growing up, I was made fun of a lot to the point where I grew used to it, and people's insults no longer bothered me. I met a girl when I was 15 that was the first girl that I was ever really interested in. We'll call her J. We talked a lot on the phone and whatnot. At this point in time I had never dated, kissed, etc. Mostly because I wasn't wanting to go on a "date" where my dad drives us around. Fuck that. J and I grew up together over the next 5 years. We became really close friends, I lost my virginity to her at 16, and she has always been in and out of my life. From age 17 to just before age 20, I was in two consecutive 1.5yr relationships, with P and A. Inbetween, before, and after, I dated a number of other girls. Without going into much detail, ALL of the girls in mention here are quite attractive. In past "Post Pics of your GF/EX threads," I've typically commanded a number of pages with people begging for more. They've all been pretty damn hot. I've got some game, I guess. Being like this, the fat kid with the hot girlfriend, has naturally caused some problems. I only had ONE friend through my school years until Junior year. From Junior year through, well, a couple months ago, I had a good "group" that I was in, 8-10 other people, all of us with a similar interest in cars. We went to school together, raised hell together, spent nearly every waking moment together. And every time that I got a new girlfriend, they would always turn their backs on me. Not wanting to talk to me, not wanting to be around me, and at the same time, each one of them trying to hit on the girl and take her from me in their own different way. One of them succeeded. Moving on, I still keep in touch with J through these years. I began talking to her again after a 6mo break in September. We hung out a LOT through the following months, ultimately leading to some more dates and some more sex. With this interaction, and the thought that we are likely going to become a couple, I introduce her to my friends. Previously, I had always kept my friends away from her, in fear of... well, exactly what's happening. One of the newer people in the "group," M, has his own girlfriend and his own agenda, but has taken a liking to J. They talk some on the phone here and there, no big deal, they're friends right? Eventually it gets to the point where she is talking to him more and than me, latelate night, hours at a time, OK, now I'm getting uncomfortable. At the same time, J begins to treat me poorly and is no longer interested in me. I confront M and ask him to stop. He says OK. Over the next couple days, I notice behaviors from the two of them, as they try and conceal their contact. I've been around cheaters and I've cheated myself, its easy to see this behavior (despite the fact that J isn't mine, its still not cool). Knowing that M and J are more interested in each other than anything else, I confront M's girlfriend, C, about it. At this point in time, they had been together for something on the order of 10 days. Hardly a "relationship." They hadn't even gone on a date, not once. C and I hit it off. Not because of M's fuckups, but because we just find ourselves to be more compatible people. She breaks it off with M, and we start to date. During this time, M and J begin to go out some as well. All is fine and dandy, right? We're both getting what we want. My group aborts me. No one wants to hang out with me anymore. None of them. I'm accused of stealing a girlfriend (despite the fact that they've done it to me before), and no one wants anything to do with me. They harass me on the phone, txt, other forums, facebook, you name it. They harass me to C, who has now become my girlfriend, but what gets to me the most.... M and J are totally fine and cool. No one minds them. They are free to come and go and hang out with whoever whenever and do as they please. No harm no foul. I guess because they both got so "wronged" by me. J begins to rally everyone against me. This is what I don't understand. Her and I didn't work out as a couple, but what the fuck happened to our friendship? She calls me on a pair of drunken nights, saying rude things and being a cunt, and in the background I can hear all of my other "friends," saying the same shit. She's successfully stolen them. So, the "friends" are out. They're all shitty people. Fuck them. J is out, one of my best friends for over 5 years, gone for no good fucking reason. I'm essentially left with C and a couple other, more distant friends. Meanwhile, my old "friends" are continuously barraging C with rude comments about me and trying to get with her. And let's face it, being the fat kid, middle-class in a wealthy area, some of them have better things to offer, and its finally getting to me. I'm working on self-improvement, and all of 2008 was dedicated to doing just that. I did quite well, mentally. Physically, I am still working on. But why the fuck won't people just leave me alone? I am no longer associated with any of them but they just won't go away. They are harassing both of us and I don't know how to make it stop, because ignoring it is only making it worse. CLIFFS: I get my best girlfriend stolen from me, decide to steal dude's girlfriend in retaliation, both couples wind up more satisfied this way, although my friends want nothing to with me for gf stealing, but don't care about the other couple. Lose all of my friends, but they still keep harassing me and her. Ignoring them isn't stopping them. What do I do?