so, this past january my younger brother (he's 17, i'm 21) committed suicide, but my mom found him and called EMS and they got a heartbeat going again in the ambulance. he hanged himself in the garage and his brain went without oxygen for about 15 minutes or so, so he has very extensive brain damage. needless to say this has dramatically altered my family life. my mom (and her mom and her sister) are all really high strung, and she always was a little partial to my brother, so now she's REALLY messed up. which is understandable. the problem is, she pretty much refuses to even try to deal with the situation and instead spends almost all her time at the rehab center with my brother, and if she isn't there my dad, aunt, or other family friends are. all so my mom can have peace of mind. i understand she's gone through the absolute worst thing a parent could imagine, but at the same time, i'm her child too and she ignores all aspects of her life but watching my brother, including her relationship with my dad. she doesn't see her friends anymore, she isn't sure she can even go back to teaching in the fall. so tonight i was at my parents house and my grandparents were there (my mother's parents) and my mom and grandma were guilt tripping me for not spending more time with my mom and brother at the rehab center. and i told her it's really hard for me, and it's hard because i'm tired from work already, i don't want to go see my brother like that all the time. and they think i'm just selfish and uncaring. i told them i want her to try to feel better and move on with her life (if she doesn't return to teaching in the fall she can't get insurance anymore, which is what's paying for my brother) so she really HAS to, not only for her own good. but they think what's best is for her to spend her time with him until he gets better... which isn't really going to happen. i don't know what i'm asking for here, i just wanted to vent mostly. but am i being a selfish brat, or is my family being ridiculous?