Shit Test: Drama with her ex boyfriend, what do you do?

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  1. macbook bro

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    So, this girl i've been... involved with apparently has a kind of dramatic relationship with her ex

    i think they're not over eachother, she's probably still fucking him, whatever, i don't really care about that

    the point is, what is the best way to respond to this sort of thing
    my method has been to basically ignore her when she says something about it, or "take his side" by saying that he seemed really nice when i met him (which i did, which was kind of weird, but, whatever)

    but anyway, apparently he broke into her apartment to steal some random (but important) things (not like mementos though like a laptop power cord) just to... i don't know why anyone would do that... fuck with her i guess

    but anyway, she brought it up randomly quite a few times ("i can't believe he did that!") while we were hanging out, i basically ignored it

    she mentioned once that she was worried he might hurt her, i said if she wanted i could have him killed (i think this was dumb, but mostly because i said it in a joking tone of voice)

    what do you guys think about this kind of situation? note: what i'm looking for is the ideal response that preserves the image she has of me as a dominant alpha male. im not trying to save a hoe here, i just want to stay cool. (example HORRIBLE idea: let's talk about it babe, what's wrong, etc, etc)

    i think i'm doing it right, but, who knows... does she want me to go kick this guy's ass?
     
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  2. fluentinsilence

    fluentinsilence New Member

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    If she's still harping on about her ex, I would say it's time for you to find a new person and for her to get a restraining order. She probably wants you to step in but that's a mess you don't want on your shoulders.
     
  3. THoC

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    you said you dont care if she's fucking him. you dont seem to care if she bitches about him since you just ignore it.

    so my suggestion is.... keep doing what youre doing. it doesnt really seem like you give a shit about this girl any way. i assume youre just in it for the banging?
     
  4. macbook bro

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    well, i wish she would stfu about it, really
    but yeah, pretty much
    my strategy is to ignore it and continue giving her the dicking of a lifetime
     
  5. fluentinsilence

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    I'm with chaos then, keep the fun going and tell her to stfu about him.
     
  6. Kev07

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    "What goes on with you and your ex is your business, when you're with me, you're with me."

    ^that one worked well for me, lead to some hot pull over on the freeway sex :naughty:

    "Can I see your phone?" and hold your hand out

    if she asks why, "Don't worry about it" while still holding your hand out

    that should cut straight through the BS, the one(and only, so take this one with a grain of salt :rofl:) time i tried this she said "no you're going to do something crazy..." and she never brought him up again


    or just go on doing what you're doing and ignore it :dunno:
     
  7. THoC

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    ok.... then go ahead and say something like "look. when you are with me its about you and i. there is no need to keep bringing up your ex bf issues. thats between you two".
     
  8. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    She probably just wants a guy around to fuck her while she's not emotionally ready for a relationship or over her ex.

    Are you ok with that?

    That's the only question you need to answer yourself.
     
  9. macbook bro

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    i'm quite ok with that, i just don't want to accidentally respond the wrong way and fail the shit test and get my pussy on demand access card rescinded
     
  10. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Are you afraid that you could say something wrong ans she'll stop fucking you? Or you're afraid you'll say the wrong thing and she'll just stop talking to you?
     
  11. Falconer

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    She's not over AN EX WHO BROK INTO HER PLACE.

    PSYCHO.

    Seriously dude, don't you think you deserve a little better than that?
     
  12. macbook bro

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    i don't see the difference/dont understand the question
    i wouldn't talk to her ever anyway if we didn't fuck
     
  13. macbook bro

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    thats not really the point here
    i mean maybe it is
    but no
     
  14. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    That's essentially what I was trying to get at.

    I'm making sure if you have actually feelings for the girl, or just want to fuck. Obviously, you're in it for the fuck. If you want to continue fucking her you let her talk about her ex boyfriend and whatever other bullshit she wants :dunno: That is the price you pay.
     
  15. macbook bro

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    What would I do if I had feelings for her? (other than abort immediately due to near certain drama/bullshit/etc)


    And, I mean, if I DID have "feelings" and she stopped wanting to fuck, that would be even more reason not to talk to her...?

    you're confusing me woman
     
  16. Kev07

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    what hes asking is, how can he maintain a higher value so this girl continues to fuck him at a whim
     
  17. macbook bro

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    lol, i thought i couldn't possibly be more obvious in what i was asking but :werd:

    i think i'm doing the right thing

    but i just can't shake the feeling that she wants blood
     
  18. ww_Crimson

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    Well normally I would have said ditch her but if you're content getting laid then consider this the price you have to pay to get to her. Just tell her you're not interested in hearing about her ex boyfriend if it's really starting to bother you. You run the risk of losing her but at least you'll avoid her shit storm of problems
     
  19. peoplescar

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    run.... run as fast as you can
     
  20. ForgottenSpiral

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    GET TO THE CHOPPER!
     
  21. THoC

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    if its not broken dont fix it.

    he is getting fucked. he doesnt need to change anything.

    if anything i would suggest AGAINST telling her to shut the fuck up about the ex. why? bc, although he says nothing, he is still a ear to vent to. which may be part of the reason why she sticks around.

    saying something at all about her stopping w. the ex BS could turn her away.
     
  22. Reign

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    Maybe she's the one... maybe she's the one. Who Is. A Schitzophernic psycho, yeah...
     
  23. poormanq45

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    For some reason I suspect that the "break in" was actually her ex using his key to get in...
     
  24. calisteph6

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    why don't you just go bang some girl who doesn't have an ex with beef?

    or is that too logical?
     
  25. more off

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    my gf had alot of problems with her ex. the first night i hungout with her i literally had to beat him up after he broke into her apartment while i was there.
    we got a restraining order against him and the rest is history
    we've been together for 6 months now no mention of him at all recently
    once he finally stopped all the threatening phone calls and so forth.
    hopefully this is just a phase and she is past him.
     

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