So, this girl i've been... involved with apparently has a kind of dramatic relationship with her ex i think they're not over eachother, she's probably still fucking him, whatever, i don't really care about that the point is, what is the best way to respond to this sort of thing my method has been to basically ignore her when she says something about it, or "take his side" by saying that he seemed really nice when i met him (which i did, which was kind of weird, but, whatever) but anyway, apparently he broke into her apartment to steal some random (but important) things (not like mementos though like a laptop power cord) just to... i don't know why anyone would do that... fuck with her i guess but anyway, she brought it up randomly quite a few times ("i can't believe he did that!") while we were hanging out, i basically ignored it she mentioned once that she was worried he might hurt her, i said if she wanted i could have him killed (i think this was dumb, but mostly because i said it in a joking tone of voice) what do you guys think about this kind of situation? note: what i'm looking for is the ideal response that preserves the image she has of me as a dominant alpha male. im not trying to save a hoe here, i just want to stay cool. (example HORRIBLE idea: let's talk about it babe, what's wrong, etc, etc) i think i'm doing it right, but, who knows... does she want me to go kick this guy's ass?