My problem is vaguely similar to the one in the 'OT, help me save my relationship' thread (which can be found at: http://forums.offtopic.com/showthread.php?t=1991046) but it's not the exact same problem and, although I have taken all the replies in that thread into consideration, I may need some different advice for this one. Basically, my girlfriend is now 'confused' about her feelings for me. We were pretty much in love. We both have said that we love each other and we couldn't get enough of each other. We both had a really special thing going on and we've both said that we've never felt this way with anyone else before. On the 25th of July, I went away for a vacation in China for nearly one month. I already hadn't seen her for one week prior to this. She said she would really miss me a lot when I'm away (and I said the same to her, of course). I really did miss her, but at the time, I thought we would manage it ok, as we've been apart for pretty lengthy periods before, although never quite as long as a month. When I came back, we couldn't see each other for another week because she was busy and had things to do (which had been arranged before I came back). The week after that (last week), she went away on vacation for a week with her parents to the Lake District (a region of the country that's full of lakes [I live in the UK]). And to make things a bit more difficult, she couldn't see me until yesterday. In total, that means nearly seven weeks we haven't seen each other - nearly two months. The day before yesterday, she sent me a text message to ask if I thought we weren't as close anymore. I replied yes and explained that it was because we had been apart for so long - and it would affect any couple. She replied to say that she felt we weren't as close anymore and we agreed we would talk about it when I went to her place to see her yesterday. I could only sleep a total of three hours that night, as I was so worried. When I saw her yesterday, we talked about everything and to make a very long story short, she's confused about her feelings for me. She said that she doesn't know if she loves me and she doesn't know whether we would be better as friends than boyfriend and girlfriend. She also said that she will be really busy between now and November (as she's in Scouts and involved with a theatre group and another scheme and she will have quite a lot of work to do in the next two years). The reason she will be particularly busy from now until November is because she will be involved in a theatre show or something. I told her that I would be happy to wait and be patient and give her the space to be busy and do her work (after all, having around two months apart and only being able to see each other maybe once or twice a week and living in the same city is much better than being apart for around two months, being halfway around the world away from each other. It's definitely not anywhere near good but it's better than when I went to China). The work I will be doing (starting next week) leaves me a LOT of free time, i.e. I have two days off and two half-days off per week. She doesn't seem convinced. Throughout this, we hugged each other quite a lot and held hands a few times. We also kissed each other on the cheek a few times. A bit later on in the day, she told me that I would meet a lot of other people in the future and I might like them more than I like her. I told her that I wouldn't (which is the whole truth, as I seriously can't imagine myself with anyone else, or wanting anyone else). She kept insisting that I would. She suggested that we separate for a while. She also said some other things and I got the general idea that she might be, in a way, hoping that I might meet someone else in this work I'm doing and I'll like them more than I like her and it'll be easier for us to split up. She repeated, throughout the day, that she doesn't want to hurt me. I can't help thinking negative and thinking that this means she will want to split up in the end. In the end (when we were out walking), we agreed to have a 'break' for a while. In this break, we were to just treat each other as friends, i.e. we don't say "I love you" or put crosses at the end of our texts or call each other "sexy" or "babe" or things like that. I agreed. However, I didn't really feel good when she said that it might help us see if we would be better as friends than as a boyfriend/girlfriend. Exactly thirty seconds after we agreed to have a 'break', we were kissing a LOT - tongue kissing for the first time since before China. After that, she said that she feels even more confused because we kissed when we were supposed to be on our 'break'. Later on, when we were back in her place and watching TV, she came over to the couch I was sitting on and sat on the arm of it, facing me. She lost her balance slightly and I started teasing her about it (we teased each other a lot before China and everything) and she started laughing. Suddenly, we were tongue-kissing - and with even more passion and intensity than when we last kissed (just after we agreed to have a 'break'). We didn't really say much after that (just watched TV), although I really wanted to talk a lot and wanted to tell her how much I love her, but I thought that she might not need that, as it was evidently a pretty difficult time for her. Finally, I decided to go home. When she saw me off at the door, we didn't kiss or hug. It was definitely an awkward goodbye. That night, I e-mailed her to explain how I felt and that I didn't want to pressurise her into making up her mind about anything and told her that we can overcome all of the problems we had as a couple pretty easily. She told me that she didn't really have anything to say in response to that, but I figured that she was still really confused about her feelings. I've left her alone since (lost a lot of sleep again last night) and I haven't texted her at all (we used to text each other countless times every day). I will text her a bit into the evening tomorrow, just to say hi and ask her how she is and general stuff and not ask her about how she's feeling about us.