And not around the bedroom. Well, maybe... I started dating this girl in the beginning of August. Things were awesome for the first month (perhaps hyper-accelerated, but awesome), then started to get weird, then I got the "I need to be by myself" speech. I have given this speech myself. I understand it. Sometimes it is necessary to be alone for a while to sort out your life. Before this girl, I had been in that phase myself for about ten months. However, I still overreacted because I really liked this one. I mean, really overreacted. We talked a few days ago and she said she really cares about me and wants things to be cool so that when she gets her shit together I won't be opposed to trying again. Sure, no problem. She says that she has always been the one to pursue guys and she wants it to be the other way around for a change. Now, I have always said that I won't chase girls. That if someone I'm into wants to be into me, then it's on like Donkey Kong, and if they want to make it difficult then they can exit stage left. This philosophy has led me into a series of relationships that were mostly enjoyable but that I was not particularly invested in and therefore ended up with me unhappy and ending things. So I think that pursuing someone I really want may be a good thing for me. The problem: I have no idea how to do this. I was a sappy romantic schmuck with my first gf eight years ago but after she turned out to be a psycho bitch I pretty much shut off that part of myself. Anything I can think of to "chase" this girl seems more or less sad and pathetic to me. So I'm throwing this out to the Vag. I need advice, suggestions, etc. for this situation.