She always wants it

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  1. lexx4000

    lexx4000 New Member

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    So I've been with my girl for 4 years.... we're practically married. She's smoking hot and I'm lucky to have her... but her sex drive is out of control. She wants to hump all day long, every day. It was awesome for about the first 3 years.. .but now for some reason I just don't feel like doing it that often. I'm at work and school from 8am to 11pm all week, and when I get home I really don't feel like humping. On the weekend once or twice is good for me and I'm done. She gets real upset when I say “no, I don't feel like it”.
    It feels like there is this huge barrier growing between us. I can't believe I'm turning down sex..
    What the fuck is wrong with me.
     
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    How old are both of you? Sounds like maybe you're a few years older than her, maybe? It could just be that you're getting old enough to where your sex drive is slowing down, whereas hers is entering its prime....
     
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    ha.. 20.. both of us
     
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    OK, well, that killed that theory; y'all are both the same age as me.

    So, what IS wrong with you, dude? :rofl: :o (j/k!!)

    Have you talked to her about it at all? I mean obviously there must be some REASON that you don't want it all the time like she does. What else does she do, other than try to get you to hump with her? Is she in school, have a job, anything like that? Maybe you have your own different goals for a career/life, and she doesn't yet? Not sure what to say....
     
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    if you dont give it to her than someone else will, consider that. You dont leave a girl horny, thats a bad idea considering shes a hottie...any guy out there would be more than willing to give it to her.
     
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    ya, I've thought of that...
    some times I try when I'm not in the mood, just to satisfy her, but it ends up to be really shity sex for both of us. But when we're both into it, its great..

    I think she's hot, but I find myself less and less attrated to her sexually. We've done it 10 million times... I'm getting board.

    we've got some toys, and do it in different places (when we do have sex) but I think i'm just getting board of her in the bed room.
     
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    what you need to do if add some spice to the sex. Do different shit, make her understand that having the same sex sucks and she should take that into consideration. Let her know its boring you to do the same thing over and over. Go to a costume shop of some shit.
     
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    That's bullshit. What if it was the other way around and she couldn't satisfy him all the time and he went elsewhere? He'd be labelled a cheating dog.

    There's more to a relationship than sex and your girlfriend needs to realise that. Talk to her about her concerns. If she is that addicted to 'getting off' then buy her a vibrator or something, for the times that you just don't feel like it. A good relationship is about communication, understanding and compromise.
     
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    sure, thats a magical relationship. Magical things are only in movies and books.

    And if you want to put it that way, people need to find the right person to be with...if this guy cant fuck her like she wants to be fucked then he isnt the right person for her, period. I added the suggestion of adding spice to the relationship to see if maybe he can turn into that guy but if he isnt willing to give it to her as often as she wants it she is going to realize that he isnt the one for her. SEX is important.
     
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    Devilish Remind me AGAIN

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    It may be important, but it is not the be all and end all of a relationship. I'd hope that they've got by on more than just sex for the past 4 years
     
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    if something like that is missing then its a problem. you know it and i know it. What if he wanted to fuck her and half the time she didnt want to, dont you think that would make him think?
     
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    i wish my girl wanted it all the time....im having the exact opposite problem right now....id say if you try to cut back on ur work load a little bit and maybe get some exercise in there, u will have more energy and desire...that is, if its possible for u to cut back ur work load...when in college it cant be tough
     
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    we can share? when she wants it and you dont ill take her .lol
     
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    good call,
    if I ever cheated on her.. I'd be kicked out. and the same goes for her.

    Like I said.. we're getting on 4 years here and we've even been talking about marrage, but I'd hate for this sex thing to break us up after we get hitched.

    I agree sex is importent in any relationship, but its not the only thing... but it does have to be there.
     
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    Best advice.

    There are lots of things you can do.

    1. Rollplay
    2. Play sex games
    3. Watch porn together
    4. Try something you never have done in bed (or out of bed) before

    But do something that is fun and that will spice things up a little bit.
     
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    pics?
     
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    How are you doing for exercise? If you're not getting much you should find time.

    Also, she needs to cut back on asking for it quite as often. You guys definitely need to communicate but asking "can we have sex now" when the answer's no just makes it more likely to be no next time because the thought annoys you.

    Thirdly you should send some oysters down the hatch and wait ~6-8 hours, then you'll be ready ;)
     
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    I have a similar problem. My fiance is 23 and I am 36, and she is on Wellbutrin which gives her crazy energy. Some nights I just cannot keep up, other nights I am too tired.

    I know what my problem is, though. For one, we both enjoy drinking, and I'll often have a few drinks weekday nights. Just 2-3, nothing crazy. Of course alcohol disrupts your sleep, so then I am more tired the next day. So then that day I will have to come home and try to get in a nap before she gets home from work.

    Of course, caffiene not only disrupts your sleep but dehydrates you as well, so this is a similar problem. So I try to avoid soda within 8 hours of bed time, but that does not always happen.

    Also, while I do have a strong sex drive, I find myself masturbating from time to time and realize that probably decreases my desire as well. I actually had not thought about that until yesterday, so now I am going to go cold turkey and only orgasm when we are together.

    Of course, when you combine the fact that I wake up at 5:00 am to get to work, and we often stay up until midnight or later fooling around (like last night) I get very little sleep. On a good night I get 4-5 hours. Some nights I only get 2-3 hours of sleep. If you're tired, you're not going to be horny. So, in that regards, maybe try to maintain an early enough bed time.

    A complete lack of exercise contributes too, I am sure, so I am thinking about doing something about that such as rollerblading or biking a path near my home in the afternoon, just for 30 minutes or so.

    And finally, diet will probably have something to do with it. I'm not sure the effect of different kinds of foods, but I can only imagine that heavy and greasy foods make me more lethargic, so I am going to try and eat more fruits and veggies, stuff like that, to see what happens.

    You may also want to do some role playing stuff. The one I always like is to go to a bar/club and split up, go get some drinks, and then try to come and "hit on" her. We pretend we don't know each other, and make up our characters as wel go along. It's interesting to see what she comes up with, so that's kind of fun. I'm sure there are a dozen other things you can do.

    So, bottom line, there may be other factors that are contributing. It's not a bad thing, though, to have a hot and horny GF. I would prefer that over what I used to have, which was the exact opposite (overweight, asexual wife.)
     
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    I was like that with my last b/f...Everytime I saw him it was instant goo. I still do not know why. He wasn't terribly sexy really. Just something about him. One night he said "I do not want to have sex with you." So he came to bed wearing a tee-shirt, sweatshirt, sweatpants and socks...go figure. Ah, maybe that's why he is my ex.
     
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    i usually want more sex than he does too, lol.

    but its not a bigass problem. i can understand that sometimes he is just too tired from work etc. no big deal... sure it sucks, when you as a girl feel like screwing around and he says no but oh my... there are worse things in life.
     
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    I wish I had the energy that she does, you should consider yourself lucky. I never wanna do it.
     
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    I'm jealous of you
     
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    you're canadian, have her try wearing a moose mask or smear maple syrup all over her body.

    j/k, maybe get one of those 'make your own dildo' kits and make her a copy of "you" that she can play with when you're tired
     
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    Do u guys own a male dog?

    He can stand in for u during ur recess.

    Not really cheating......
     
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    Yup. You can't leave a guy wanting it all the time with no satisfaction without him going elsewhere either. This is 11ty billion times worse in the case of a hot girl, she can EASILY go out and get it.. It sounds like this dude is concerned about his relationship though. It's not ever right for the horny dude or chick to cheat, but it's acceptable if they break it off and then go hump everything. (too many stupid fuckers go back to them after this though) It doesn't sound like he wants her to cheat or lose her before she goes looking for cawk either. Try to compromise with her. Give it to her whenever you can, but sit her down and explain what's going on and discuss it with her. Alot of times not being able to do\get something makes people desire it that much more. If you discuss it with her, she may understand, and that alone may curb some of her cravings.
     

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