I've read these forums for a time and since I lack many gay friends I decided to post this question here. I'm 26, and somewhat overweight, not Ruben overweight, but definately curvy. I can't say that I am an unhappy person, but I do notice that I do stay single 98.9% of the time. So is it shallow to lose weight to attract men? I have no problem attracting women..they love my personality apparently Up to now I've been content to just call most gay men shallow, but lately I've realized that is probably a pretty unfair generalization. What to do?