So I'd like to hear some opinions. I've always been very open about sexual topics and comfortable with my body, etc. I don't sleep around with just anyone, but I will fool around with someone here and there and I'm not afraid to just be naked in front of someone. No big deal. Ok..onwards.. Anyways, lets say you go on a date with a girl (i'm a girl, but Im thinking from a guy's perspective), no kiss or anything happens, then the second date you makeout, and the third you don't have sex, but you do some oral and the like. This seems to me like a pretty typical progression, but I have always had insecurities about seeming too upfront and too willing to have sex and fool around. I'm now going out with this guy, we still haven't had sex, but I've made it clear that I want to. As much as I'd like to say I have no insecurities, I really do. Even when there is nothing to worry about, I do. I've been cheated on in the past and I've had guys say they 'love me' and then disappear a week later. So around him I'm really trying my hardest to appear unclingy and confident, etc. But I still am afraid he's just going to become totally turned off and one day I won't hear from him again. There is no reason why I should feel like this. All of his words AND...actions...speak positively. It's just inside I'm this neurotic, paranoid mess. So, anyways, back to my initial question and concern...the fact that I'm appearing so open about sexual topics and not afraid to put myself out there like that (we are going out, mind you) ...that's not a reason for a guy to be put off, right? I wouldn't think so, but I'd like to hear what other people think.