I love sex. If it were up to me I'd have sex once or twice a day. I understand that isn't realistic though. Most people seem to be content with around 3-4 times a week. I would be content with that. Below that and I start to get pissy like when you're hungry. The longer it goes, the worse my mood gets. My girlfriend sees sex as something special. If it were up to her, she'd only have sex when the mood struck her, which would be once every couple weeks. She recognizes that is below normal and so she's comfortable with twice a week. Beyond and she starts to have issues with it. So it seems like 3 times a week would be fair for us, right? I think she and I probably agree on that in theory. The problem is, due to our living situations and lives (which will not change until May), we usually only see each other Friday through Sunday, roughly 2-3 times a month. I feel like that's plenty of time for 2-3 sex sessions. My SO doesn't want to have sex every day she's with me. She can commit to once for each weekend we're together. That means around 3 times a month. That makes for a pissy ForgottenSpiral. She isn't comfortable with any more than that. I'm not happy with that little. So do I put up with being sexually frustrated for 6 more months? Do we break up because our needs don't match? Is there some other way to compromise? I've bargained with naughty pics to hold me over or saying we didn't have to have sex if she would just be with me when I take care of myself, but both of these ideas made her uncomfortable. It's all sex to her and if she isn't comfortable with sex, she isn't comfortable with anything involving sex. Now I just moved up here 6 months ago to be with this girl. Over the summer when our living situation was different, everything was fine. 3 times a week more or less. We were both happy with it. We've been in counseling for the past few months and we've made a commitment to work on things, this obviously being one of them. The problem is right now neither of us are happy with the situation. I feel like my needs aren't being met and she feels like she's not good enough. Neither one of us wants to break up, but we also don't want to be in a relationship that makes us feel like crap. What are the options here, vag? Is it really a tough it out and see if things improve later or break up situation? Is there anything else that can be done to find a compromise? I know I'm not the first person to be in this position, so I'm hoping some of you have some strength, experience and hope to share.