Hubby might kill me for posting this here, but here goes anyways He's been pretty against sex toys, but recently has opened up a little bit. It's always been a fantasy of mine to use something (strap on, dildo, whatever) and do him. He's been VERY uptight with this suggestion though. A couple of weeks back, we bought this vibrating massager at Bed Bath and Beyond (not SUPPOSED to be a freaky toy, but we made it into one ). He's been enjoying using it on me, and I finally coaxed him into me massaging his balls/anus (without entering it) with the massager. He REALLY enjoyed it and came faster than I thought he ever could. I'd really like to purchase a massager that is more made for sex use (it's just like a three 'prong' thing) so I don't have to be afraid of getting shocked while we're using this. Anyone know of one? Also (don't slam me for this one please ), but I honestly think there's something inside of him that thinks he will somehow turn 'gay' if he allows me to do much with his anus. That's not really a valid concern, is it?