Sex isn't lasting very long

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  1. WeRdToYoMoThA

    WeRdToYoMoThA Girlies on Standby, Waiting to say Hi

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    So I have been with my girlfriend for about a year, and having sex with her for about 8 months. Since we started having sex, it has never last a long time. I am always cumming way too fast. Sometimes it happens literally after seconds. I don't understand why.

    I try to take my mind off of it, but it just makes me remember what I am trying to take my mind off of, and I cum then. I haven't been able to have sex for longer than 10 minutes. It happens even if the last time I orgasmed was earlier that day.

    I wear a condom every time. I am not circumsized, could that be part of the problem?

    Thanks for the advice.
     
  2. transoceanicfoe

    transoceanicfoe New Member

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    i used to have a boyfriend with nearly the same problem.. my current boyfriend said it has something to do with that PC muscle.. try tightening it and releasing it every now and then.. it will help you last longer definitely..
     
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    kegels?
     
  4. JasonKnight

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    try orgasming literally 5-10 minutes before, have her give you a blowjob, then while you get hard again you please her. then you should be ready for more...

    If not look into getting something like viagra, its not just for old men...

    I have the problem where If I am with someone for the first time i can last an hour or two, but after i get more comfortable with that person I cum in less then 15 minutes... And yes this is with a condom. and I am circumsized...

    try different things. I know for me that I cum more easily when I am on my back and she is laying on me and I am thrusting in her. any other position it takes me a little while longer.

    But try what i said, cum literally a few minutes before you have sex, wether it be masterbation or a blowjob, have more foreplay on her an then see if your hard again, it would take you quite a bit longer to ejaculate a 2nd time.
     
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    Just wondering if anyone here has actually done kegels and had them prove to be useful?
     
  6. XaPU!M

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    I've never specifically worked mine like has been suggested in the Vag here a million times. But mine seem to be solid (maybe from the gym :dunno:) but ever since they were brought to my attention I have found them to be VERY useful.
     
  7. transoceanicfoe

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    being a woman, i cant speak too far for men.. but i believe they work.. ive been doing them for quite some time and it helps alot with incontinence (i believe thats the right word) during sex.. my boyfriend has done them for awhile and he can keep going for awhile..
     
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    XaPU!M Active Member

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    Well I've never really had an issue with not lasting long enough. If anything my problem is the exact opposite.

    However when I learned you could control them I basically learned how to control how long I want to go :bigthumb:
     
  9. transoceanicfoe

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    thats what every man should learn to do!
    my first boyfriend could barely get it in without having to cum
    he would cum 4 or 5 times in a few minutes and im just sitting there
    im glad i dont have that problem now:mamoru:
     
  10. Abomb

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    i do kegels, i take supplements to shoot porn sized loads, and i cum on command. yes im the shit
     
  11. Abomb

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    pretty horrible advice ROFL :bowdown::bowdown::bowdown::bowdown::rofl:
     
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    yes!! i love that.. i guess you could say im a bit of a cumwhore when it comes to giving my boyfriend head.. sometimes i just get to the point where im like cum for me now..
     
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    so is my girlfriend she loves to swallow my cum - she doenst tell me when i cum though i decide :)
     
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    i like to take control sometimes.. ill just see him walk by and undo his pants and have him fuck my throat.. or if we're having sex and i can tell he's about to come i have him pull out.. i dont know what it is about cum.. i just cant get enough of it.. ive always wondered if other girls were like that.. a lot of girls i know dont really like giving head.. most of them do swallow though.. but i love giving head.. and it sounds like your girl does too.. hmm.. good poll question.. how many girls actually love giving head
     
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    A lot of people suggest kegels, but I don't have an issue with lasting so I couldn't tell you whether or not they help. For me, its all mental. What is it exactly that makes you lose it so fast? What are you thinking about? How do you view sex?
     
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    she likes to give me road head.. gives me head while we are layin gin bed all the time. since i am the master of my own cock, i will keep fucking her until her fragile little body cant handle one more orgasm. she loves to swallow me, she will even lick her fingers clean if my cum is on it. she has to taste me. yesterday we 69ed for a good 30 minutes until we made each other cum at about the same time. about 3 mins later i was already rock hard again (i love being in amazing physical and sexual shape) and ready to go so i proceeded to make her cum in every single position i could think of. i was fucking her doggy style and i was using my middle finger to simultaneously fuck her tight little asshole. this made her cum 3 times rapidly. after this she had to have my big dick in her tight little asshole so i lubed up and proceeded to get her off anally (she doesnt even need to rub her clit while im pounding her tight little ass) multiple times. at this point she was more than done so i filled her asshole up with cum. a few hours later she wanted me to cum for a third time in a single day since i never have so she spent a good hour deep throating me and massaging my cock with her throat and tongue until i finally erupted in her mouth.
     
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    sounds like quite a time.. sounds like a day in the life of my bed.. haha.. we just started trying anal.. im beginning to like it more.. while he was fucking me from behind i actually wanted and asked him to finger my ass.. ill probably ask him to finger my pussy tonight when we do anal.. i bet thats pretty nice..

    i also did a prostate massage thing on him last night for the first time.. ive never seen him enjoy it more.. and he came so much.. we're such a good match sexually.. he loves fucking.. and i love being fucked.. he loves having his dick sucked.. and thats all i want to do.. especially when he fucks my throat..
     
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    if he pounds your ass hard enough and at the right angle you wont even need pussy stimulation to orgasm. use astro glide not ky
     
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    yeah i have a gay friend who i asked about lube.. he said the best lube he's tried was astroglide.. shit was expensive but it feels just like a wet girl..

    ived heard of ass orgasms but ive always wondered.. i guess we'll find out tonight :x:
     
  20. Abomb

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    i have to pound her so hard i bruise her hips. im talking like 10 minutes of the hardest pounding possible. she'll cum multiple times... a lesser man will most likely blow his load before his woman can achieve her orgasms.
     
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    we'll put it to the test tonight.. he's been known for some pretty nice longevity.. we can fuck for a good hour without him cumming.. but i do have a tight hole.. no matter how long he lasts the feeling of him exploding his hot load into my ass is fucking amazing..

    what a win/win situation
     
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    OP- no biggie, just work on your refractory period (the time it takes you to get it up again).

    transoceanic- you've got a very lucky boyfriend. :big grin:
     
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    stick it in there. but dont pump. just let it cool down, ya know, then when it gets limp, give it a few thrusts, but not too many to cum, smart guy
     
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    bettermanforums.com it does work
     
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    i highly doubt kegels work as well for men as they do for women
     

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