Sex drive and Masturbation

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  1. Fate13

    Fate13 New Member

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    So i was wondering, does not masterbating increase sex drive?
     
  2. JunTao

    JunTao Wheel kick to YO FACE! OT Supporter

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    For me yes ... But my lasting power sucks the longer I wait. I try to find the right timing where I'll masturbate and then be able to last a long time during sex.

    I do find that the longer I go without masturbating the more I want to.

    hope I answered you somewhere in there :o
     
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    i have no idea, sometimes i do it cause im bored.
     
  4. RedVsBlue

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    They dont. This forum is just filled with a bunch of 15yo's that think sex is a competition among friends on how long you can last with your girl.

    Masterbation before sex has to be the stupidest thing any male has ever advised. The only reason to do this would be if you absolutely are AWFUL at getting your partner off and you need the time to get the job done.

    No, I think more masturbation decreases the sex drive because you are already getting yours
     
  5. mrs0323

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    Hmmmm, might disagree with you a little here. Both me and Mr. Man have a very high sex drive (like we could go 5-6 times a day, 7 days a week) but sometimes that's not practical with our schedules. Um, phone sex much? It's a great stress release for the both of us until we see eachother again and we both still remember it the next time we are together. He still lasts a LONG time and is multi-orgasmic whether he's jacked off that day or not. And if I'm not in the mood (rare, but usually study-induced) for a few days, he'll take care of himself and it doesn't hurt anything. But that's just moi.:wiggle:
     
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    We're old, 41 and 45 (I'm older). Now true I don't know how long we could keep that pattern up but I know back from when we were around eachother 24/7 for about 6 weeks we were animals. We've got a lot less distractions than most on here. True, we're both in school and he works but there are no children to take care of (my daughter is 27 and in grad school), both of our parents are still in good health so no worries there, so there IS time for it. He has always had a very high sex drive and mine kicked in big time when I hit 40, hormones maybe?

    Plus even at 5-6 times a day, I'm not talking marathon sessions here. Some of those would be quickies which is fine. We see eachother 5 times a week and generally average 2 times on M-W-F and 3-5 times on Saturday and Sunday. Those of ya'll that think you have no sex drive after 40 will be pleasantly surprised.

    Of course this is the AVERAGE. It may be less, it may be more. Hell my mother who is 76 is still getting it 3-4 times a week (thanks to Cialis for my stepdad, lol).
     
  7. RedVsBlue

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    Being premature is something you should work on, not work around. If you go early, you arent doing yourself or really your partner any long term benefits by masterbating beforehand.

    If you are premature, work on getting by it, also work on getting her off in other ways so even if you are premature you are both getting yours through sexual intimacy
     
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    I feel ya, my wife and I may be near half your age but we also have a major sex drive.

    I think you misunderstood me though, or we are on seperate pages altogether. I dont think there is anything wrong with masterbation in a relationship. I think it is actually healthy. What I think is wrong is that people are being told to go masterbate right before they have sex so they will last longer. I disagree that this is a good idea, and I disagree that doing this INCREASES the sex drive.

    If you are having an intimate sexual relationship with your SO, getting off before hand and worrying about how long you are lasting can really kill the intimacy. :dunno:
     
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    Im fucked. My wife has the perfect sex drive now. I think if it increases as I age, she is going to kill me. She made me promise a long time ago that I wouldnt die during sex, but if I am 50 and expected to have sex multiple times per day, that may just happen :rofl:

    Sounds like you and your man have a good relationship though. :bigthumb:
     
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    Gotcha, sorry my bad. If I thought Mr. Man was worrying about how long he could last, it would piss me off. It's great when it's long, it's great when it's not. No need to get stupid and go choke the chicken so you can brag to your friends "I lasted for 70 minutes with my gf last night". What a crock. Do guys really think that we sit there timing you? (ok, once in awhile I do, lol).

    My first husband was chronically premature and STUPIDLY tried to make me think it was nerves. Um, after a few months, you're not nervous, you've got a problem. He tried the topic being described. Didn't help with him. At. All.
     
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    Can we get a sticky on this post? I think there are tons of guys that post in the vag worrying about how long they last, and how to last longer that should see this.

    Also what are other womens opinions on this statement?
     
  12. mrs0323

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    It's cool. Not what most would consider normal considering we are ELDERLY, lol. I wonder how many were reading it and thinking "Lying Nympho". Honestly I was blessed to find him. Communication is the key to everything in our relationship. We rarely argue and genuinely appreciate every single day we have together. Until he gets on my nerves, of course!:rofl:

    PS-Lookie at me!! I bought a SUB!!!:wiggle:
     
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    how does that not seem mature? I am 27 as of teh 24th, and i like my sex 5-6 times a day every day of possible.. and like the other poster, not always marathon sex.. but sometimes more then a few hours :naughty:
     
  14. Yail Bloor

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    A huge part of the advancement of my skill with women was directly due to stopping masturbation.

    You need to be able to get into a sexual state with women and its hard to do that if you are spanking your monkey all the time.
     
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    I second this.
     
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    Hijack much??
     
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    andymodem Ambitious, but rubbish.

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  18. el_gato_negro

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    Sometimes I'll be going for a while and my girlfriend said she'll be like "Are you done yet?" :hsugh:

    Obviously you want to be in for a little while - long enough for both of you to enjoy anyway. I don't think most women mind if you bust a little too quickly on occasion either, as long as they know you're concerned with their pleasure too.

    If I know I'm not gonna cum any time soon, I'll just pack it in when she's done. :hsd:

    EDIT: going too long can equal soreness for her too, and that's a surefire moodkiller
     

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