settle an argument btwn me and my gf

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  1. Falconer

    Falconer OT Supporter

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    is a guy bringing flowers to a girl on their *first* date creepy and/or clingy?

    i said yes it's clingy and stalkerish.

    she said no it's sweet. she txted 2 of her female friends who agreed w her.

    i said its one of those things girls say they would like but would be creeped out if it actually happened.
     
  2. Lucky Penny

    Lucky Penny Mr. cut me some slack cause I don't wanna go back,

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    I'd be creeped for sure :noes:
     
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    creeped for sure unless they were friends for a while before hand. (like that shit ever happens)
     
  4. Alaya

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    I have no idea since that's never happened :rofl: I imagine I might be slightly :hsugh:, but not full-blown creeped out unless it was some overdramatic bouquet.
     
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    Bob Brown bewshit, bewshit, bewshit

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    Creepy is a really strong word to me :dunno: I understand people use it a lot more lightly than I do... but per my conception of the word "creepy" it would have to be super excessive to start pushing the 'creepy' category.
     
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    i would be weirded out
     
  8. Alaya

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    that's a word I can go with :h5:
     
  9. Falconer

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    good OT girls agree w me.

    The topic came up cuz we were watching a show on 20/20 about the science of attraction and this dude brought this chick flowers on a first date and i said it was creepy and my gf was like "whatever, it's sweet!"

    i was like "BS, if i had brought u flowers on our first date u would've been like 'zomg ur so sweet'? i dont think so!"

    then i said its one of those things chicks say they want but dont actually want (like "a guy who's nice and respectful and honest and sweet") and my gf got all annoyed at me cuz "u think u know so much about women" :bowrofl: :bowrofl:

    i said "i knew enough not to bring u flowers on our first date" :bowrofl:

    a few more things i'd mention about that show but i dont feel like typing them out from my phone right now. basically it confirmed what we at the vag already know (don't compliment attractive women's looks early on and don't vocalize insecurities early on).
     
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    I've never done this, but I'm wondering how this would be found to be creepy? It just seems like a nice, yet cliche, gesture to me. :dunno:
     
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    Bring a bag of flower and say the florist was closed
     
  12. D7

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    No flowers on the first date. Body language speaks much louder when the chemistry is right.

    In all seriousness, is this a recent study? Are they using data from 1942? I could see my Grandma thinking this was sweet.
     
  13. Amanda Ann

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    i think i caught the tail end of this episode last night.. it was showing all these lovey-dovey couples and then singles in the bar obviously trying to get some.. i kept thinking, 'ahh, there's my life' :rofl:
     
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    i saw that show last night, and i cringed so hard when that loser dumped his insecurities all over that poor woman.

    "i feel like i'm applying for a job"
    "i feel like i'm not good enough or smart enough for you"
    "just give me a chance"
     
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    "Candy is dandy, but liquor is quicker." - Willy Wonka
     
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    what kind of flowers are we talking about? like the kind you would give to mom,sick friend. or like roses??
     
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    im a guy, but i would never do that... seems kinda weird
     
  18. MattThom01

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    wouldn't do it. It's jumping the gun, in so many ways.

    Hell, if it's a first date, you don't even know if you will really like the girl, so why should you be buying her something? Let alone something that is pretty much worthless...

    Then you could also equate it with trying to "buy" the girl's attention, sex, whatever.

    Just a stupid idea, imo.
     
  19. Lucky Penny

    Lucky Penny Mr. cut me some slack cause I don't wanna go back,

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    :rofl: I like your style
     
  20. iwishyouwerebeer

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    I wouldn't say "creepy" I would just be thinking "this guy must be lame if he feels he has to bring flowers to impress me."
     
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    could go either way, depending on if she likes him or not.
     
  22. Braddlac

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    That's pretty much the point. Most of the time, e.g. Falconer's gf in this situation, whenever the girl says something retardedly untrue such as "oh it would be sweet if he brought me flowers on the first date" - it's because in their head they are imagining some guy that they are unbelievably attracted to, and then he happens to also bring them flowers. That's why when girls give advice it's other such silly things like I just want him to be nice and treat me well and call me all the time, etc.; because they are imagining all these things on a guy who is way out of their league, so when he does these things, it makes them think he really appreciates them and makes them tingly inside and down there.
     
  23. audrey

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    Buying a big bunch of flowers would be a little full on for a 1st date.... but hand picking daisies on the walk to meet her would be sweeet as hell. My gf and I pick each other flowers all the time.
     
  24. Yail Bloor

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    first date? can be pulled off but only in a joking/self-deprecating fashion

    like you are acknowledging the whole absurdity of the dating ritual by bringing her flowers
     
  25. Yail Bloor

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    some daisies you picked would obviously be more effective than purchased roses
     

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