SRS Seriously thinking about giving up on my degree

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  1. Mars Princess

    Mars Princess They hatin'

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    I've been working on a research paper all day and been pretty fine with the amount of work I have to do when it hit me that this all seems for nothing. I have been in school going on five years and will graduate with something close to 40,000 in debt that will be shouldered by me and my parents. I don't have much to show for my time in school. I've gone from graduating in the top 20% of my high school class with a 4.01 weighted GPA with honors to squeeking by with a 2.01

    I figure that I spend too much time on the internet (possible internet addiction) and doing things that distract me from doing work. Now that I don't have the time or the money to go out, I am home a lot more but I still find myself unable to pay attention in class, crack open a book, and do work. I sit up in the majority of my classes bored out of my mind. I can't stand to go to class, with the exception of one class every semester that keeps me enlightened. I look forward to the end of the week because it means I can relax somewhat and not worry about school, when in fact there is only more work waiting for me.


    I hate where I am at (school-wise). i am plagued every year with the possibility of not affording school and this time it caught up to me.I have had to keep applying for more and more loans to go to school, and now it looks like I won't even be able to register for classes until we hear back from another loan that MAy or may not come in. If this is so, I will have to scramble to schedule my classes, with the possibility of not getting the ones i need to graduate by the end of the fall semester. I know I can work my way through college, but I don't have a lot of confidence that I will get a job that will help me pay for myself and my schooling.

    This semester I have managed to cut out a lot of things that I thought sidetracked me (drugs, partying, certain habits) but I still find myself unmotivated and bored with school. I don't know what to do. If I pass all my classes this year, I will have about 12 more hours to go before I am done but I won't have any way to pay for those hours unless something miraculous happens. I just want to drop out and try to go to work to start paying off the loans
     
  2. Toasty

    Toasty Naked people have little or no influence on societ

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    I don't think I'm going to tell you what you want to hear.... I think a lot of your concerns about debt and the job market are legitimate. However, weighing in all your options I think you should stick out your last year of classes because of 2 things:

    1) once you slip out of college and enter the job market, it's going to be ever so much harder to get the mindset to go back and finish it later in life. I've hard friends who say "I'll just take a break and go back later". They never do....

    2) I think it's going to be good to prove it to yourself that you can accomplish this goal of graduation. I think setting that goal and accomplishing it will help bring back some of that drive you said you used to have. You'll need this pattern of behavior to accomplish anything else you might need to do in life...finding a job, or even paying off your school loans. You don't accomplish anything by leaving....

    Good luck in whatever you might decide to do.
     
  3. Mars Princess

    Mars Princess They hatin'

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    thanks. I was really stressed last night over a paper. I still have a lot of work to do before the end of the semester, but I am going to try and stick it out. I realize that if i get out, I will have to end up making something of myself and convince my parents that I am worth investing in.
     
  4. BlackBeard

    BlackBeard Shiver me Timbers

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    keep your head up...

    i had a similar situation....
    im the first one in my entire extended family to go to college, im going to go ahead and stereotype my own people and say , im hispanic so you know my family >100 people...so that has led to alot of stress and alot of people asking me "how is school going" Fortunately I recieved a full ride to UT and loans have paid for my living expenses..at this point you are wondering what the hell am i complaining about and how this has ato do with you...

    well...we all have stress and overcoming that stress is what gets us to that next level...one time i ended up owing UT money because I made some bad financial decisions the semester before and I blew some cash on stupid things...anyways i owed UT like 800 dollars and they were not going to let me register until i paid it off......
    well....i bit my lip...i sat down and said to myself...WHY THE FUCK ARE YOU DOING THIS TO YOURSELF...especially since all my friends stayed home and have great jobs for thier ages....and new cars.....
    bottom line: im doing it because in my family it has never been done before, because whether i like it or not im a role model...if I fail then i tell all my little cousins and siblings...you cant do it....and i do it for myself....well to get out of that situation...i sold EVERYTHING in my dorm...everything...the only thing i had left was my alarm clock and my clothes...no tv. no computer, nothing.....in fact they moved someone into my room io the dorms because they thought no one lived there......

    looking back...i learned from my mistakes..and now i have a few grand in the bank...i own way more shit than i need (x1 projector, flat screen monitors, flat screen tv's) and i tell you what...when i sit in my apartment and say to myself.....i cant believe at one point in my life i was in a situation where i had to give everything up...and i was willing to do that....l.pushing yourself to the limit allows you to learn about yourself and makes the accomplishment of your goals even sweeter...

    in may i graduate with two degrees with honors, and i have been accepted to a tier one law school with a full ride.....
    85 people are coming to my graduation at last count...they are proud but no one is prouder of me...im proud of that guy that didnt give up....and the future you will be damn proud of yourself for not giving up....

    you are so close!
     
  5. civicmon

    civicmon got all my game from the streets of california.

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    sounds like me.... I have ADHD so it's something you should look into as well.

    Also, don't drop out... any job you get outta college will pay better than the one you'd get when dropping out.
     
  6. shankems2000

    shankems2000 If you read everybody's user text and location, yo

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    So you're almost done? Stick it out. Why quit when you're this far in? That would mean that all of your efforts up until now have been in vain.

    I have 3 and a half years left. I've been in and out of school since January of 2004, but I'm going back in May and I'm staying. Then I'm moving on campus.

    Get the degree. Let's not kid ourselves, we all know how well looked upon people with degrees are. I'm getting mine for the respect that one recieves from being a formally educated person (money is the main reason but you know). If the degree gets me nothing else, I'll be happy with that.
     
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    D A guiltless state of self awareness.. The process

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    Well, I've never done anything by the rules in my life.

    All I can do is tell you after reading the thread is that these guys are right. Hang in there!:hug: You can do it.
    The alternative may look easy short distance, but would actually turn out to be harder in the long run.
     
  8. PuppyCat

    PuppyCat O.T. Mom

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    Tough it out...I had a really terrible time in my last year...too much work, distraction, plus I worked full time and graduated debt-free...but at what cost? Other people were out having fun all the time...I worked.
    Having a degree is sort of nice...it is all one's own and nobody can take it away from you.
    You can, and should, when you graduate, hold up your diploma, smile wide and say "Holy Doodle...I DID it!!!!"
     
  9. Toasty

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    Good attitude. I use that rationale for my jobby job as well.
     
  10. Bleed

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    Grades in college do matter. It's a shame when my friends who want to go to grad school can't because their college grades were poor. Do the best you can, you owe yourself at least that. :)
     
  11. johan

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    If their grades were really poor but they are really sincere in their wish to attend grad school, they can do a qualifying term or year or more depending on how poor.

    This is essentially a repeat year of school in which they (presumeably) kick serious ass and haul down really good grades. You therefore demonstrate your ability to function at a graduate level. (along with a reasonable explanation of why your previous 4 years were so poor. ) Voila. It's done.
     

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