Self Conscious...

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  1. Scott7

    Scott7 New Member

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    My girl has a BANGING body and she is so self conscious with herself. I hate it!...she can change topless and stuff in front of me, when she takes off her pants she usually does it fast ya know, so i can't see as much...i ALWAYS tell her she has an AWSOME body and she's silly to feel the way she does...We've been together for about 3 years and its still like this...

    BTW...she's about 5'4"-5'5" and weighs about 107 lbs. and is gorgeous...i need help!! lol
     
  2. elekt

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    there is nothing you can do
    she wants you to shower her with compliments, don't do it
    tell her that if shes not good enough for herslef, shes not good enough for oyu
    throat fuck her and slap her with you man meat, end of story.
     
  3. PaZzEsCo

    PaZzEsCo New Member

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    It's hard for guys to understand but girls do get self conscious. I'm not always comfortable with my body. Maybe somewhere down the line someone told her something bad about her and her body. Bad comments do stick with us. Just be understanding and just keep telling her how much you love her and the way she looks. She'll come around.
     
  4. BTA

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    Bullshit, most women are fishing for compliments when they whine about the way they look.

    And if you think guys dont get self conscious, you're mistaken. We just dont whine about it to our GF's constantly about it hoping to get more attention.
     
  5. PaZzEsCo

    PaZzEsCo New Member

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    Your a dumbass!!! You obviously no NOTHING about girls or you've dated some dumb ones!!
     
  6. AngelsWing

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    Yeah, females do have it rather difficult. We are very critical of ourselves and each other... Not to mention all the comments that guys make. Many times we take things too personally, but in these times we just need reassurance, not more criticism....
     
  7. BiffHenderson

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    Some women are just like that. It's kind of sad that they look amazing, but in their eyes, they just don't see it.
     
  8. BTA

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    *fixed for my own sanity*

    Oh I'm sorry I must have hit a nerve.

    Guess you can go cry in the corner because the world thinks you're fat. Hopefully listening to some Simple Plan emo shit will make you feel better because at least SOMEBODY understands how hard your life is. :jerkit:
     
  9. cuz

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    maybe she is really self concious, but chances are shes just doing it for compliments, maybe just ignore her when she does that or if you dont want to do that just say your being stupid, you know u have a nice body and say nothing more about it.
     
  10. BiffHenderson

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    Not all women are like that. There are those who are really attractive, but they just don't see it. Not all are fishing for a compliment. Looking deeper, you can see the reasons why some are anorexic....they may be thin, but they just don't see themselves as being thin.
     
  11. Scott7

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    I know i hate it...she's a very good looking girl...she just doesn't see it...errr
     
  12. shangrilarcadia

    shangrilarcadia A lady

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    It is very common for even the most attractive girls to be self conscious about their bodies. Today's society is obsessed with bodies, and women feel the pressure far greater than men. The vast majority of women do not fit what they see on tv/magazines/etc and feel like they aren't good enough because of that. Also, if a woman has a great body, it is common her to be treated like all there is to her is a great body, which can make some women grow to hate their bodies even if they have fabulous ones. It's pretty much a lose-lose situation for many women because no matter what they look like, there will always be someone telling them they don't look perfect enough.

    There really isn't anything you can do to suddenly convince her not to be self conscious. All you can (and should) be doing is being supportive and loving and non-critical.

    And for the record: the guys who have stated that you should ignore her because she is 'fishing for compliments' know nothing about women and how they should be treated... If a guy is feeling self-conscious, his SO should comfort him no matter how silly she thinks his concerns are, because part of being a good partner is being supportive; the same should go for men supporting their SOs.
     
  13. The Secretary

    The Secretary My domestic skills will rock your socks off!

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    As stated in this thread already almost all girls are very self conscious about their bodies. We see the 10 lbs that you dont (figuritivley speaking). Its all in how she looks at herself in the mirror. Its taken alot of years to even get to where i can accept some parts of my body. I have also had a very supportive bf who tells me im beautiful all the time. That has helped tremendously. So keep being supportive, and its going to take a long time for her to start believing it. As you have stated it has at least taken 3 years. Some women unfortunately will never be comfortable or acceptable of their body no matter how much someone tells them otherwise it is how they mentally precieve themselves.

    Good luck with the situation.

    Also as stated in this thread, I would also like to reiterate the fact that those who say ignore her are also morons. If you ignore her you will further increase her negative view of herself.
     
  14. JustaMeThang

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    Very simply, what YOU see when you look at her, is NOT what she sees when she looks in the mirror. Our mental picture of ourselves is like a permanent imprint......I use to weight a little over 200 pounds at 5'5, Im now 135. I know I look damn fine, and I can tell this via reactions I get from others and how much my boyfrined goes out of his way to tell me I look great, but, even though I can fit into a jeans in the single digits now, when I look in the mirror, I see the old, fat me. Our self images are almost always scued. Just reinforce her self confidence by strokin her ego a bit, be sincere and dont over do it.
     
  15. cuz

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    true.... and while that is true, im just saying from my experiences its more of a compliment thing. and trust me my best friend is anorexic (shes 18 and weighs 65 pounds) and what you say is true... she doesnt think shes thin, she thinks shes fat, but she doesnt say say that to people. from what i have experienced girls who complain of being fat mostly just want others to say they arent and they are beautiful etc. (one of the reasons i have all guy friends, i hate girls, not to mention 95% are bitchy backstabbing hores) i have issues i know.
     
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    Please! Don't listen to those who say she is just fishing for compliments. And don't ignore her. You told us she has a banging body. Tell HER she a banging body. TELL her that she's gorgeous. Tell her she is a goddess. A perfect, beautiful amazing creature. Reinforce it everyday. Maybe someday she will believe it.
    She sounds like she is particularly self conscious about her butt. Tell her you love her ass, and you want to bite into it! You want to grab it! You want to make love to it! You want to rub up against it and bury your face in her ass cheeks. Don't ignore it, explore it! YeeeHaaaaa!!!!!!!!
     
  17. Lyzardegod

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    Most banging [psysically attractive]girls should have bumper stickers on their cars that say, "Gone Fishing"

    Regardless of sex [and what the movie Shallow Hal has to say], hot people know that they're hot.

    Guys also get exposed to the same kind of ads that women do that are geared towards their insecurities...all the hair club for men commercials and viagra and sporting commercials. They know exactly how women feel but [American]society expects them to, "Take it like a man."
     
  18. giblit

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    my girlfriend always says she is fat and stuff and i always have to tell her how much that bothers me because im in really good shape and she always says she doesnt want to do anything about it. which makes me mad but all you can do is just tell her its not true and how good she looks.
     
  19. MissKitty

    MissKitty If squats were easy they'd be called 'Your Mum' OT Supporter

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    I was very self concious when I met my man. I refused to be nekid in front of him.

    He used to always walk around nekid and I was a little comfy with it. But nearly 4 years on, this whole house is a mini nudest camp :)

    Don't give up. Kepp telling her you love her body and all you want to do is see more of it, because you like her and love her body. It may sound like pointless sucking up, but it works,....if she is worth it
     
  20. Sionell89

    Sionell89 I grew up when I wasn't looking

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    You know, there is so much focus on what girls look like that we can't help be feel self conscious. All you have to do is go through the archive and you see guy after guy talking about this girl or that girl is fat. It carries over.
     
  21. Scott7

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    Thanks for the comments everyone...greatly appreciated
     
  22. BlMMERGUY

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    break the ice one day when you guys get drunk together. get her comfortable and take pictures of her naked. it'll naturally make her feel sexy. an ex of mine had stretch marks under her boobs that she was self concsious about. i touched her and said it wasnt so bad the general shape makes up for it. i also showed her stretch marks i have on my ass she laughed and wasnt shy about being naked afterwards.
     
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    break the ice one day when you guys get drunk together. get her comfortable and take pictures of her naked. it'll naturally make her feel sexy. an ex of mine had stretch marks under her boobs that she was self concsious about. i touched her and said it wasnt so bad the general shape makes up for it. i also showed her stretch marks i have on my ass she laughed and wasnt shy about being naked afterwards.
     
  24. MissKitty

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    kissing stretchmarks is always a winner!!!!!!
     
  25. Auream

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    I gotta say, many chicks that pull this shit are just fishing for compliments. And if not, all the better... a hot chick with low self esteem isn't going to realize that she can do much better than you! :bigthumb:
     

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