I've found lately I have a lot of issues with self confidence, let me say that for a while I was doing just fine with the ladies but after my last relationship where I found out my gf was cheating on me I got depressed and basically lost interest in dating for a while. Started drinking more, eating unhealthy, exercising less, pretty much was a crushing blow to me (looking back I took it way too hard but alas hindsight is 20/20). Fast forward to now, theres a girl I really like (and have for some time) who had been dating an asshole. They recently broke up and I'm interested in her (obviously want to give her a little time first), but even with giving a little time I don't know what to do. I've gotten a little out of shape after that last breakup, have a gut and a little bit of man boobage going on, not too far out of shape but by where I was beforehand I am. Anyway I have been dieting hardcore and working out like crazy lately and have started getting back into shape, but I'm not there yet. So my dilemma is I really like her, we get along great and I'd love to ask her out but I basically don't have any self-confidence right now, my best friend seems to think if I try I could probably end up going on a date with her but my perspective is I think shes really hot and think why would she want to date someone like myself who isn't in the best shape (but hopefully will be soon). I'd like to wait til I'm back in shape before I get back out into the dating world but realistically I know she'll likely wind up seeing someone else if I don't do anything then I'll be left in a wondering what if situation. Do I have a chance OT or am I likely correct with my perspective of things? Little more background, we work at the same place but in different departments so we aren't really coworkers in the aspect we see each other at work all the time.