Second time around.

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Second time around.

  1. Yes, it was/still is awesome, if not better than the first time.

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  2. Yes, it was worse, I regretted it, ex's are ex's for a reason.

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  3. No, never would not consider it.

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  4. No, but I would consider it.

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    24.3%
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  1. le_rocks

    le_rocks New Member

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    Has anyone ever had a successful second time relationship with an ex? You guys broke up, months, even years later, try again and it becomes a better relationship.
     
  2. lauren

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    define successful? i still ultimately broke up with them for good. it wasn't a bad relationship, per se.
     
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    spidey255 New Member

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    I was with a girl for 9 months, we broke up, got back together after around 2 months and it was absolute hell. Somehow I stuck around for another 5 months.
     
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  5. Leaden Grudge

    Leaden Grudge OT Supporter

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    I'm on my second round with the girlfriend right now and it's better. I think it can work, but both of you need to make changes and then consciously keep them up every day.
     
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    i'm in the process of deciding whether this is a good route to go...
     
  7. antihero

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    i did it once with good results. thing was we dated for a year, then 4 years apart, then dated for another year or so.

    completely different relationships really.
     
  8. lamour

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    i dated a guy for two years in high school, we broke up didnt speak for 7 months, and then got back together for another two years until we realized long distance wasnt for us, so yea i think that was pretty succesful.
     
  9. Drifter87

    Drifter87 Yippi-kay-ay, Motherfucker

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    I tired it, we dated for a few months and broke up in early high school (I was not ready to date). Then we tried it again in late high school and broke up again (She was too clingy). Then tired it again in early college and it failed horribly.

    The reason we broke up the last time, was apparently she wanted to date me, but she did not want to hurt the feelings of a guy she was FWB with. So she was sleeping with him and me at the same time. I got word from a friend and dumped her ass.

    The sad part about this story is that she still wants to date me, even though she is slutting it up with 2 guys and might be getting a third soon.
     
  10. lamour

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    how are you ever gonna find the person you spend the rest of your life with unless you try different relationships? At those points in time when you reconsider being with someone again you should hopefully see that kind of future with a person, but a relationship that dosent end up as "forever" isnt a waste if you had a good time and learned something from it. Thats in my opinion what makes us grow and able to move on to better relationships which hopefully will last forever.
     
  11. Mugen92GS-R

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    I'm enjoying the single life now, so fuck no I don't want to get back together with her :bowdown:
     
  12. JordanClarkson

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    I'm not dead set against it but she'd have to have gone through some major changes.
     
  13. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    :sad2:
     
  14. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    yeah...

    ugh. I think he really does get it...but I don't know if that is enough. Sad it took this to get it through.
     
  16. le_rocks

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    no, that girl was a nutcase. :o this is an ex that I regret ever ending a relationship with. But so much time has been apart and we just started talking again.
     
  17. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Yes, it was worse, I regretted it, ex's are ex's for a reason.
     
  19. le_rocks

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  20. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Well it depends....After two "wonderful" years (I quote wonderful because that's what you said in the thread) why did you finally break up? Did she get that stupid ass fairy tattoo? Has she grown up at all or does she still do things for instant gratification instead of thinking about consequences?

    I guess what I'm asking is why? Why would it be different now? Why did it end in the first place?
     
  21. TheGetUpkid

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    Voted for the first option. Together for 3 years went on a break for a couple of months and got back together for another year till we broke up again. She actually came back recently in June of this year cause I guess she was starting developing feelings for me again (even though she still has a BF) but nothing progressed between me and her :hs:.
     
  22. le_rocks

    le_rocks New Member

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    She's grown up a lot. And so have I. She has her own place, has her own money and is very much a well rounded person. We broke up the first time cause we both fell out of love? I guess would be the right phrase. But something about seeing her again, just sparked. :o
     
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    are you gonna pursue it?
     
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    I tried. She was and is still with her BF that she said was happy with but was really confused since she started to spend more time around me. I really wanted to get back with her but I wasn't about to try to break up their relationship so I told her to let me know if she ever makes a decision. We didn't talk for 2 or so months and she's still with the same BF. I've sorta just shrugged it off but the damage has already been done and gets me down from time to time. Sorta messed up for her to imply that we might get married in the near future in a graduation Thank You card, but thats just me lol.
     
  25. ForgottenSpiral

    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    I'm currently on round two with my gf. I would say right now things are looking pretty bad. There were times after we got back together that they were good though. Still in it and working on things. I'm going to reserve my answer for a few months though. :hs:
     

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