Scared of sex

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  1. sugarslxt

    sugarslxt New Member

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    I had a baby Dec 1 and my bf is readdy to have sex but im scared. The DR said its ok but im thinking its gonna hurt like shit . Its been like 7 weeks do u thinks its gonna hut bad. Plus i tore on both ends when giving birth if that makes a diff.
     
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    It all heals in due time trust me, 7 weeks should be fine just make sure you are he doesn't try to go in without foreplay if you know what I mean, make sure your ready..
     
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    test it out and go slow?
     
  4. BlazinBlazer Guy

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    Tell your BOYFRIEND to marry you first. I mean, you two do have a child together -- be responsible about it.
     
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    :rolleyes:
     
  6. BlazinBlazer Guy

    BlazinBlazer Guy Witness to The De-Evolution of Mankind.

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    What, are you going to argue that being a single parent.... er.... "Bay-bay mah-mah" is an acceptable/honorable thing? As far as I am concerned, you already fucked up, now either get married or get fixed. Those are your options.
     
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    eh well.. if both parents are there for the kid i don't see why they should rush into marriage. what's the point of rushing marriage just for the kid if you're going to get divorced shortly after? that'll just fuck more things up with the kid and you will now have tons of legal shit to deal with.
     
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    we are gonna get married. But not yet. We have to many things going on right now.
     
  9. BlazinBlazer Guy

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    Should've thought about that before getting knocked up.
     
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    Cmon, what she asked has nothin to do with this. Dont instigate drama. :bigthumb: for having an opinion, now just try to keep it to yourself until its relevant.
     
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    i agree. he wants to get married but im not ready yet.
     
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    dont force YOUR views onto other people
     
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    The doctor said its fine. But i know its gonna hurt. It hurt the last time i was at the dr getting my check up. And thats when the dr told me it is ok. It hurt bad!
     
  14. TNFlyBoy

    TNFlyBoy F =/= ma?? wtf??

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    mf'in :werd: that person doesn't kno what he's talkin about.

    if you're wondering if it's gonna be too tight, now i'm not a doc and don't have any experience but it seems like it would take a while to return back to normal after pushing a ~6lb baby through it. in any event take it slow and relax, if you tense up anticipating it hurting, it will hurt because everything is tense down there, or so my gf's doc says.
     
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    Ya know, the vag has really gone to shit with you bitching around in here trying to suppress people's opinions/views/etc.. Cut the crap, it's perfectly relevant right here and right now.

    I DO know what I'm talking about -- children deserve both parents, and deserve that those parents be in a committed, loving, MARRIED family environment for them. It's irresponsible in the first place to have a child (or in this case probably the airhead made an oopsie with the pill and got knocked up) outside a marriage, and to now have gone through that and STILL not care that you're risking getting pregnant again outside of a marriage just makes me sick. I can understand if it was a pregnancy resulting from rape, but this isn't that scenario. It's obvious you aren't very responsible about sex, or about life, so you shouldn't be having sex until you are married or sterile. Or preferably both.

    This isn't just my views -- this is TRUTH. And frankly I think a very large majority of society would agree with me. You have a responsibility to the child you irresponsibly created. So grow up, suck it up, and own up to the obligations you made for yourself. This isn't about you, your boyfriend, or your sex anymore. This is about your child. If you don't care about that, you're an unfit parent and the courts should take the child to put it in a more appropriate family environment.
     
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    There are positive and negative ways of going about expressing your opinions. There certainly isn't any reason to go at her in such a rude manner. BUT, she can always put you on her ignore list, and then you can rant away.

    ANYWAY, Oh girl, that baby did a number on you, huh? OUCH!
    After both of my babies were born,(and yeah I was married, just so you don't try to rip ME a new asshole as well, BlazinBlazer) I was very anxious to get on with the sex after about 4 weeks. BUT, I can totally understand why you'd be scared. Go SLOOOOW, use lube, and a lot of foreplay to get warmed up, if you feel discomfort stop, and try other ways to satisfy each other until another day when you feel ready again. If it continues to hurt, see the doc.
    Congrats on your baby.
     
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    I'm sorry we don't all share YOUR views, you ignorant piece of trash.


    What part of OPINION don't you understand? No one is born into this world deserving or being guaranteed anything.....we are born into the circumstances we are born into, and that's just how it is. Sometimes life is great, and sometimes it sucks.


    You came in here flaming the OP about something she didn't ask an opinion about, and then get defensive about it? Go to the main OFF TOPIC forum if you wanna spout off your personal views....this forum is for ON TOPIC talk about sex and things like that.
     
  18. TNFlyBoy

    TNFlyBoy F =/= ma?? wtf??

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    :werd: congrats on the new baby ;)
     
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    you cant force a loving family if its not nautral. kids do best when the parents are happiest, and if that means they arent marries and wait to do so till true love then so be it. staying or getting married for the 'sake of the child' is stupid, and any shirnk will tell you so.
     
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    Go express your opinion to an Smod, Here, let me do it for you.
     
  21. MiseryIndex

    MiseryIndex i never know why. i only know who. Moderator

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    don't be a dick :)
     
  22. RedVsBlue

    RedVsBlue Penguins > *

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    Clean out your PM box

    are all the vag mods female? j/w :dunno:
     
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    MiseryIndex i never know why. i only know who. Moderator

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  24. BlazinBlazer Guy

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    I think you're the ignorant piece of trash, fuckstick.

    Yeah, I know what an opinion is. I'm entitled to mine, and if anyone tells me I can't express it, I'm going to go the fuck off on them. Now read my user text and follow instructions.

    It's perfectly relevant. Period.
     
  25. BlazinBlazer Guy

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    Well if she isn't marring her "baby daddy" she should be out looking for a contender to make a family with, instead of still fucking the same loser.
     

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