Says shes wants to be more then friends but not dating just without the mushy stuff.

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  1. BrewCrew

    BrewCrew Active Member

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    Basically about 3 months ago i started seeing this girl, we hit it off great, kinda rushed alotta things but otherwise it was the best ive ever clicked with a girl. She kept telling me that she didnt want a bf right now and i didnt think much of it. About a month ago shes been stressed out about her trying to buy a house, her job, and her money situation. Like last week we were talking and she brought up the fact that she didnt want a bf again, and she was enjoying being single. She basically told me she likes me alot but doesnt want a bf right now, so we should cut out all the mushy stuff like sex and kissing. At the same time she was like whenever she thinks she has her life figured out we will pick off where we left off at. Now I've hung out with her a few times since she said all this and shes become alot more flirty towards me. No kissing, occasional hand holding.

    Guess my question is, should i wait around or no? I like this girl alot, and i can tell she feels the same way about me. She assured me thats shes not with anyone else.
     
  2. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    She just doesn't like you enough man, I'm sorry to say it but it's pretty obvious.

    Anywho, it's pretty fucking clear she just doesn't want to be with you, I don't understand what else she needs to say before you get that through your skull.

    Do not wait around. Her telling you you'll get together when her life has settled is total bullshit.
     
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  3. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Sounds like she just likes you for emotional support. The fact that she told you no more sex, kissing, etc. means she's just not into you that way. You are a sort of sexless friend.

    This is also the girl who told you you were "plain" in bed, right?
     
  4. whamola

    whamola Tonight....you.

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    Played this same game for a few months. Turned out it wasn't that she didn't want a boyfriend, it was that she wanted me around while she was still pretty much with her Ex.
     
  5. MattThom01

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    If she liked you, she wouldn't say she wants to cut out the sex.

    She wants you to be her friend, or the little puppy that chases her. And of course she can flirt with you, she has set it up so that nothing will come from it. You're emotional support, an ego boost, and a romantic pick me up.

    And the whole "pick up where you left off" is bullshit. No matter how messed up her life is, if she really loved you, you would be a support and an asset. You would be with her while she got her life figured out.

    She's blowing you off.

    Move on.
     
  6. spankaveli

    spankaveli OT Supporter

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    back the fuck off of her, let her settle her life, you live yours and if things are supposed to work out down the road, they will
     
  7. kristaliah

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    How old is she?

    Maybe she's just sick of always being in a relationship?
     
  8. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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  9. pierrot

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    poor guy lol
     
  10. Viper

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    You are friendzoned.

    What you do with that information is up to you.
     
  11. Ideotique

    Ideotique Drinking on monday nights does not make me an alco

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    Friendzoned. Accpet that position in life or ditch her. She will not change
     
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    No.
     
  13. Punky72

    Punky72 New Member

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    Ummm....NO!!! :rolleyes:
     
  14. Yail Bloor

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    when was the last time you had sex with her?

    any sex since she started saying this stuff?
     
  15. Victoriono

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    She doesn't want sex and kissing and you believe she likes you?

    Read that sentence a couple of times.
     
  16. Savage5point0

    Savage5point0 Im an asshole.

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  17. Falconer

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    Agree 100%.

    Agree 110%.
     
  18. Yail Bloor

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    why did you make this thread if you aren't going to participate in it?

    we should all delete our replies
     
  19. MattThom01

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    Because he probably is like everyone else who has been interested in someone who doesn't return the interest...he only wants to hear support for the theory that she still wants him, despite what she has said and done.
     
  20. amze

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    God bitches are manipulative. Makes me sick. I've dealt with this situation, if the relationship goes in reverse.. and you go from sex and kissing.. to no sex and kissing. Back the fuck out.

    (I know its wayyyyy easier said than done.)
     
  21. JordanClarkson

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    How is this being "more than friends" ?
     
  22. MattThom01

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    I don't see it as being manipulative...she said she doesn't want to have sex or kiss any more. He's just too blind to see that she just wants to be friends.
     
  23. amze

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    Mmmm you have a point.

    I guess manipulative is only the right word if she never tells you she doesn't want to have sex or kiss. But she doesn't wanna have sex or kiss, haha.

    And you're clue-less..

    But whats even moreee manipulative is teasing and saying she wants to fuck you and such to keep you around for emotional support.

    Daddy issues!:ugh:
     
  24. dan7532

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    Dude, that means give her some space. You came on too strong. She doesn't like you enough to go out with you. You can't make her like you. Give her space. Hell, date other people too, she doesn't want commitment. And you shouldn't be putting all of your eggs in one basket.
     
  25. Yail Bloor

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    you are clinging to her desperately and this is always guaranteed to kill any attraction she has for you
     

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