Saying I Love You

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  1. machazure

    machazure New Member

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    My girlfriend and I have been toghehter for 2.5 months at this point. I have very strong feelings for her and she has the same if not greater for me.

    We see each other anywhere from 3 days to nearly everyday. We are both 19 and in our 2nd year of college.

    Anyways, I've been thinking about it and want to tell her I love her...but I'm not sure if its way too soon to do so???? Could I be feeling love after 2.5 months?
     
  2. Shadoxity

    Shadoxity New Member

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    yes you could!!!
    i told my gf that i love her after 1 month, cause i feel really strognly for her and the feeling is returned :big grin:
    go out on a limb and say it, she has most probably been waiting for it ;)
     
  3. MissKitty

    MissKitty If squats were easy they'd be called 'Your Mum' OT Supporter

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    I told my other half as soon as I felt that feeling that was stronger than just like.

    He said it back to me :) turns out he had loved me for a very long time and didn't want to scare me off.... four years later and we are still together
     
  4. AlohaRacing

    AlohaRacing Freak that bitch out

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    let her say it first.
     
  5. If you feel it, say it. There is no time limit on these things. My boyfriend and I were saying it after like 2 weeks of dating. How long have you known her?
     
  6. NJGuy

    NJGuy "Fuckmefuckmefuckmefuckmef uckmefuckmefuckmefuckm OT Supporter

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  7. Bruticus

    Bruticus half dead OT Supporter

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    I'd never feel strongly enough about someone after that short a time, but thats me. If you feel it, say it imo. Though pick your moment, don't do it at some stupid time.
     
  8. Darrin

    Darrin Eat. Sleep. Arrest People.

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    when i met a girl online we were chatting for a month or so before i went to visit her, and within 2 days of me spending time with her in real life i realised i loved her. There is never a "too soon" or a "too late" with love, because it **just happeneds**. When i told people they all raised their eyebrows but we both felt the same, and only we could describe how we felt.

    If youre a little bit bleh about it all. Maybe instead of coming out with a "I love you", maybe say "i think im falling in love with you", after all, that is whats happening. Its what i said, and she said the same. /cheer. :)
     
  9. RedVsBlue

    RedVsBlue Penguins > *

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    stupidest thing I have ever heard. If you are both waiting for the other to say it first it can build up alot of frustration in the relationship. When you feel its right...DONT SAY IT. When you KNOW is right, then say it.

    Nothing worse than an 'I love you' that turns out to be fake in retrospec...
     
  10. AstroGirl

    AstroGirl If I don't respond it's because I have severe ADD

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    If you feel it, say it. Even if she doesn't say it back at least you are being honest with your feelings ;) There is no time limit on love.
     
  11. scifimom

    scifimom Fear is the mind killer. I will face my fear and l

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    My parents knew by the 4th date. 4 months later, they married. 43 yrs together. tell her.
     
  12. kavery

    kavery New Member

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    Its important that you let her know how you feel, and you never know! She could have the exact same thoughts but be afraid to voice them to you.
     
  13. AmCo

    AmCo Haters goin' Hate

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    i usually dont say it too quick in the relationship because i might get caught up in the moment. I usually wait a little while when i'm sure i feel it and the other person as well.
     
  14. RedVsBlue

    RedVsBlue Penguins > *

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    Thats what alot of people do, they get caught up in the moment.

    Realize that love is ALOT more than a feeling. Actually I think the emotional part of love is one of the least part. Anyone can be emotional towards anything, but love is so So SO much more than that.
     
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    JS SOMSS New Member

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    same thing happened to me. I didn't want the relationship to go south.
     
  16. bait

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    once you feel it you should give yourself some time to think about it and make sure its completely true...

    i said it after 2.5 months after chickening out plenty of times...things that made me sure it was love were how he would just hug me and hold me for the longest time when we were saying goodbye, or how i could fall asleep on him during a movie, or how we could talk for hours and never want to hang up the phone...

    make sure you're feeling love during the non-physical times in the relationship, and then go ahead and say it! everyone loves to hear 'i love you'
     
  17. Epiphany

    Epiphany 78% of all statistics are made up on the spot

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    It really sucks people fester over this kind of thing so much. I've always waited at minimum two months before I said it, just because guys tend to freak out easily about this. I give it time. Whether I felt it or not prior. You are in a good place though I think. By around two months, I think you should know which direction the relationship is heading.

    I agree though. If you feel it, say it. I'm the kind of girl where if I tell a guy and they don't say anything then thats perfectly cool...In fact I honestly I don't want a response the first time I tell them just BECAUSE I told them that. I just want them to know that I feel that way. If they say it first... even better! :) It doesn't feel natural to have a "cause you said this... in effect I'm going to say it back". Say it because you mean it.

    There is no reason you both have to be in the same place at the same time. If it goes for months on end... then yeah theres a problem.

    Relationships should be taken seriously. Don't play games... "say it first"... "don't say it first". Thats childish and insecure. Don't cop out because it's easier. Thats lousy resect to a relationship with someone you supposedly care about. Just say what you mean and move on.
     
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  18. NJGuy

    NJGuy "Fuckmefuckmefuckmefuckmef uckmefuckmefuckmefuckm OT Supporter

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    Let the girl be the mush head first.
    All the chicks will hate that idea and call it playing games or whatnot but its a guy thing... They cant understand.

    Of course, situations vary... buts its a good general rule of thumb.
     
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    2 and half months is not long enough to really know. You need to get past the infatuation period and reevaluate why you feel the need to rush into things. You'll learn with time.
     
  20. giapia

    giapia Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you re

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    when you know, you know. then again, if you have to ask questions like that, it makes it sound as if you're not 100% sure yet
     
  21. Epiphany

    Epiphany 78% of all statistics are made up on the spot

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    i.e. insecurity. That's all it boils down to. There is no other reason. Guys like to play it all macho like they don't care... when in the long run, when they do care, they'd rather bottle it up and let the girls take all the big steps because they don't want to get hurt. That is the only excuse for it.

    Girls tend to put more on the line because guys have more of a tendency to freak out when girls bring up "the L word". Yet we are put in the position of having to do it the first time the majority of the time. If thats how you feel grab some guts and just do it.
     
  22. JohnDoe

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    the biggest fear is obviously rejection and that she wont say it back. I make sure that I for one actually do care for her enough to feel "love". and obviously love is different to different people. The best time to bring it up IMO and its worked for me is when you tell her how much you care for her. Tell her how you enjoy every second you spend with her, youve never cared for someone as much as her, and all you do is think about her. Get her into her emotions and you usually cant go wrong.
     
  23. PuppyCat

    PuppyCat O.T. Mom

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    The worst thing in the world is saying to someone "I love you" and have them grunt in response.

    Nothing is colder.
     
  24. Miss Red

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    Sometimes the actual words aren't needed. My bf hasn't said it, but i can tell he does. It's just a vibe between the two of you. But if you really feel it, go for it.
     
  25. lauren

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    im never the first to say 'i love you' anymore.

    i did it first a few times (like to my bf the night before we 'schedualed' to lose our viginity; once when i was LD with another guy) but it was always forced and uncomfortably and unnatural. id rather he do it when hes ready. nothings worse than that silance, or a studdered 'me too'

    you dont have to say it to know they do.:hs:
     

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