Say you are 26 and you have a g/f that wants to have sex every night

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  1. Faithless

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    would you be down? Or would you be "too tired"?

    Would there maybe be some reason why you didnt want to have sex??
     
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    Hypothetically.... are we talking about sex with YOU, or some other girl/situation? If we ARE talking about you, well I think the guy is crazy to turn it down. :naughty:

    In all seriousness though, this sounds like a kinda immature question to be asking HERE. How the hell are we to know what his situation is? Talk to the guy about it, not OT!!

    People do have long/hard days at work or whatever, any number of things that are perfectly reasonable. You won't know that though, until you talk to HIM!!
     
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    I would be down just because my GF and I do not have sex every day. We do it 1-2 times a week. I don't think I am an every day type of guy but I definately wouldn't mind it being bumped up to like 4-5 times a week
     
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    I asked him.

    He said he just... doesnt feel like it.

    This has been ongoing though, not just recent and not just a couple of days.

    EVERY SINGLE TIME.
     
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    And we havent been dating a super long time either, so I dont think he could be tired of it or anything. We've only been going out for a month or so.
     
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    different people have different libidos.

    Sometimes if I'm tired, stress out, or upset I'm just not in the mood. If there is a lot on my mind...my cack just doesn't wanna play.
     
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    Im gonna esplode!!

    :run:
     
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    And the worst part is that the more I have to hold off because he doesnt feel like it, the frequency and level of horniness grows exponentially.
     
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    girlfriend of only a month? Im 26 and i will probably go for twice a day, more on weekends... after about three months it slows down.. after 6... meh..


    depends what else he has going on in his life though.
    If he has something else on his mind, its going to distract him. try different times of day, some people really just get tired at night.
    you could also try leaving him alone for a few days about sex. give him a chance to really want it again.

    :dunno: it definitely sucks having very different sex drives.
     
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    Grow up.


    That said, a guy leaves his sexual prime behind as he travels through his 20's. He went through that sex every second phase as a teenager, as almost all men do.

    Women on the other hand, dont get that way until later in life. You seem to be there, as he is on the decline.

    Who cares though, there is so much more to a real relationship than sex every day. Its nice, very nice actually, but lack of daily sex certainly doesnt warrant a bitch fit.

    I'm sure your attitude towards the whole situation effects things too.

    Usually my wife and I have ALOT of sex, but every so often things get stressfull at work, or something comes up, or life just gets tiring for a bit...and sex is the furthest thing from my mind. If I didnt want to have sex, and she got all upset about not fucking every day, that certainly wouldnt turn me on anymore.

    What do you do to help him relax on a daily basis? What do you do to initiate sex? What do you do if he says no to a sexual advance?

    I bet his side of the story would differ alot also...my advice: Grow up.
     
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    they have only been together a month. the flame should be burning as bright as it ever will right now. I understand that life gets in the way, and sometimes people really just need some time off, but in the first month of a new relationship, if a man doesnt want to have sex with his new GF at least once every other day or so, he has a VERY low sex drive, or has some very serious other stuff going on in her life, that i would imagine faithless would tell us about.

    I mean, is his job/family/finances etc ok?
     
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    If i was already having sex with a girl that early id consider her a whore anyways and really wouldnt give a damn about having sex with her. Just personal opinion. Sex for physical reasons wears of faster than anything.

    His sex drive might be low, but my guess is she does nothing to help him out.

    Also, after only a month, dont expect him to be honest about it being because of you.
     
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    I'm 36 and I'm still ready and willing to go more than once a day. I have been with my fiancée for three years now, He may have a low sex drive.
     
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    :rolleyes: We've been friends since I was 16... thats 8 years
     
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    :werd: I was thinking it.... and then you said it.
     
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    No, his mom just got laid off and they were about to buy a house...
     
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    And that is supposed to matter.... why?

    I don't care how long you've been friends, the fact still remains that you've only been in a "romantic" relationship for a month.
     
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    no, thats how long we have been b/f-g/f

    we have been dating for longer
     
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    so is this your first long term relationship??
     
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    I was with my ex for 3.5 years
     
  21. Cerridwen

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    People have different sex drives. You need to ask yourself if this is something you can deal with (trust me, it's not going to change) and if it's something that you want to deal with.
     
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    Then you understand that sex drive dwindle over time?
     
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    She had better learn to deal with it, or date teenagers the rest of her life. No grown man is going to have a sex drive like she apparently wants without medication.
     
  24. Cerridwen

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    :wtc: It's a HARD thing to deal with though. My husband and I also have very unequal sex drives and it's taken me (literaly) a couple of years to be okay with it.
     
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    Its only as hard as you make it. And when you make it appear hard, it can really turn a man off alot more.
     

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