Rules for hooking up with an ex?

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  1. korverftw

    korverftw New Member

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    My ex from high school (about 5 years ago) and I talk once every few weeks on facebook and each time she says we should go get coffee. Frankly, I'm more interested in putting my dick in her. I can't tell if she wants that too or if she just wants coffee.

    Generally, how responsive are ex-GF's (she was pretty freaky when I was with her) if you just come right out and say "let's fuck?"

    Also, what are some guidelines for not getting sucked back into a relationship (she's a stage 3 clinger, and a 10 on the annoying scale so I have to be careful here).
     
  2. lawngn0me

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    RUN, RUN AWAY AND DON'T LOOK BACK.

    seriously. its just something you shouldn't do. they're an ex for a reason. the stage 3 clinger status just raises a huge red flag.
     
  3. Ford4Life

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    With a clinger, I wouldn't go near her. If she was normal, I'd just tell her straight we can fuck, but there will be no relationship.

    In this case, abort.
     
  4. GammaRadiation

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    Stage 3 clinger = out.
     
  5. MissKitty

    MissKitty If squats were easy they'd be called 'Your Mum' OT Supporter

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    My rule? Don't, they are an ex for a reason
     
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  7. antihero

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    again, i disagree with all of you guys.

    been there, done that, will do it again.

    just make sure you don't do ANY relationship stuff. No dinners, no movies, no sleepovers, keep cuddling from getting out of control, see her twice a week at absolute most. do not talk to her every day on the phone.


    ex because they were a bad relationship partner, might still be a good sex partner.
     
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    GammaRadiation Active Member

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    Did you miss the stage 3 clinger part? Perhaps you've never had to deal with a clinger....but it's no fun. Especially if you have a conscious and dont like hurting people.
     
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    How many times have you followed the rules i laid out and still had a problem?
     
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    just_another_on New Member

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    Sex with ex's is amazing :dunno:

    But you gotta know your bounds. Dont get all caught up in it and make sure she realizes that as well. I might be the minority but I wish I could have sex with some of my ex's again :bowdown: :x:
     
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    Why the fuck would I go through the trouble of all of those rules when I can get a stage 0 clinger who knows that we are just FWB.
     
  12. Falconer

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    Rules for hooking up with an ex:

    1. Don't do it
    2. See rule 1.
     
  13. antihero

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    Because she knows all the shit you really love and just how to do it. Because you can pull the really out there stuff you wouldnt even mention to a new fwb.im not going to bother with a more complete argument since its probably a waste
     
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    i am currently nailing my ex.

    It is awesome.
     
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    Meh, I've had too many ex troubles to ever do it again and I haven't even had sex with an ex.
     
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    My ex has to come get some stuff from my house, well actually a lot of her shit. I would love to have sex with her and if possible I will. She already has a boy friend (she had a boy friend a month after breaking up) but I'd still nail it because she isn't mine ha ha ha.
     
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    :werd:

    First time having sex after I broke up w/ my ex (was like a month later) and it was by far the most amazing sex ever :bowdown:

    It was obviously good cause we knew what each other liked, but because we weren't together it almost seemed like we wanted it more, :dunno:

    But it was great :mamoru:
     
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    :werd: same here. some of most amazing sex ever.
     
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    is the sex that great that you even want to bother having to deal with these negative things?

    if so, just make it clear what you are after. dont lie to get her in bed, tell her you want to fuck and thats it. no relationship. no dates. no getting back together. she may end up wanting more, but if you were honest from the start, she has no place to get upset. and if she does start to cling or get annoying, end it completely
     
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    :werd: exactly.
     
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    i have had good luck with ex sex. just make sure its been long enough from when you broke up that she isnt just doing it to try to get back together and also make sure she knows its just sex and i agree with what someone said earlier. dont do too much relationship stuff and dont talk every day
     
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  23. Midgetized

    Midgetized Don't mess with Douche Cat

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    Why don't you just go get coffee with her and see how it goes? If you haven't seen her in a long time then she probably would at least like to spend a little time chatting as friends first before jumping right back into bed with you.
     
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    :nono: because you're dealing with a past relationship, there's sooo much more risk involved with old feelings. hanging out with an ex that you currently have a fuck buddy relationship with is a big no, imo.

    activities should be kept to light conversation before and after fucking.

    so, introduce the concept at your place, and try to do it bluntly but appropriately. always be honest. if the two of you had awesome sex in the past and she's currently looking for good sex, it can work out.

    this kind of arrangement requires the strictest of boundaries, so tread carefully.
     
  25. tidalxwave

    tidalxwave WWKD? OT Supporter

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    tons of alcohol so she'll black out after you hook up and won't remember it happened
     

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