I have finally resorted to using this method in my relationship. To give some background I have been with the same girl for 7+ years, we are in our mid twenties. Around 3-4 years ago, the sex life started to become very slow, twice a week, then once a week, once a month, once ever two months......and that's about where we are now once every 1-2 months. Of course it was great in the begining, it was like every other day. Now real life has set in and it's pretty "uninteresting". I am forced to initiate every intimate encounter. I have tried to explain to her how important that this whole thing is to me, and that guys find intimacy through sex and not so much through hand holding and living in the same house. I have tried and tried and ultimately failed. One day last week, I gave her a good ole smack on the ass and she reeks, "Why do you always have to do that?" I thought to myself fine, I'll quit, little did I know that I could take it further. I haven't reached for a boob, smacked an ass for around 2 weeks and it seem to be doing wonders. Today she asks me, whats going on with me and why won't I grab her butt or whatnot. I tell her that I am not really interested in that, I have too much on my mind and don't have time to think about those things. She is in a fury, she doesn't get it. She wants to know, why I am not making random passes at her.......because it's starting to drive her crazy. It's turning her on, by the mere fact that I am not drooling at the mere sight of her. I am having a good time with this, haha. Has anyone else ever used reverse psychology to get some much needed spark back into their relationship?