repost from ot: can someone tell me where i epicly failed with this chick last night

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  1. evh

    evh Active Member

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    okay, so i got the jokes in main, now i'd appreciate the serious answers from the vag.

    i was talking to my buddy about a situation i had with this chick on new years eve. here is a transcription of the conversation, instead of myself writing a summary.

    excerpt of conversation with my bud describing epic fail events that transpired with chick:
    also:
    in the past we have hooked up before and she's blown me, i've gone down on her, etc. - same thing happened last time too though.. no sex. this was a long time ago, about 7 months.
     
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  2. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    You asking had nothing to do with it. She obviously is not ready/willing to fuck you-end of story.
     
  3. evh

    evh Active Member

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    so then let me ask you... as a woman, what would be going through your head as you're laying there, moaning, with me naked and fingering you?

    i don't get it... sex comes next, does it not? was i just dealing with an immature girl?

    and also, in your opinion, do you think "should i get a condom?" is smooth and satisfactory for getting to that step? most guys i ask either do that or just take out the condom and wait for a response (which in my experience, is almost always a response of resistance out of instinct - thus leading me to believe "should i get a condom?" is the best way to do it). it's also not in my character to just proceed to do what i want with a girl (unless i'm with them in some way, i.e. fuckbuddy, girlfriend, fwb, etc) until they say "no" or "stop". am i wrong here? should i change my attitude?
     
  4. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    I wouldn't say immature girl, some people just have set limits in their mind :dunno: I remember a girl friend in the past who referred to herself as "everything but girl," because she'd do everything but sex with a guy. Sex was only for serious boyfriends. Might seem stupid to you, but everyone has their boundaries :dunno

    just out of curiousity, had you two been drinking?

    I personally would respond well to you asking that. If a guy just assumes were fucking and starts putting the condom on I'm gonna get mad most likely.
     
  5. Diesel66

    Diesel66 My standards for women is like rent-a-centers stan OT Supporter

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    but if he asked first, you'd think he was a wimp for not taking control :mamoru:
     
  6. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    I know there are girls who think like that, but I am personally not one of them.
     
  7. evh

    evh Active Member

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    well, see that's why my style is just taking the pants/shirt/panties off with control and then asking for the condom - i hate to sound like a psychologist here, but that's the whole "let them think they're in control thing", is it not?
     
  8. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Right. If I'm letting you take my clothes off then I obviously want it to go somewhere, but I still might not want sex to be the final step, so asking instead of just initiating it will certainly give you more props in my eyes.

    The reason I asked earlier if you had both been drinking is because I immediately had a horrible flashback to an almost identical situation I got myself in years ago. It had been a few months since my first huge breakup with a long term relationship, but I was drinking and lonely at a close friends house party. This really nice friend of a friend basically showed interest and in my emotionally retarded drunk mind we started fooling around, but I think once it became obvious sex was the next step I started crying and talking about my ex :bowrofl: poor guy :hs:
     
  9. evh

    evh Active Member

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    there was drinking involved. i was hammered. also, we have hooked up a few times before, this wasn't the first time.
     
  10. paranoidandroid

    paranoidandroid New Member

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    it trips me out reading a thread like this from a "backstager". its like seeing your teacher at the grocery store.
     
  11. evh

    evh Active Member

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    the emotion-filled songs gotta come from somewhere my man.

    my first full-album release will basically be my life story thus far.
     
  12. paranoidandroid

    paranoidandroid New Member

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    write a song called dry humping in a burning room.
     
  13. LBFilmGuy

    LBFilmGuy LOL why u mad tho?

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    :rofl: You shoulda mentioned your ROCK SOLID COCK a few more times.

    Don't get me wrong bro, I talk about conquests with my buddies all the time, but not like that. [​IMG]
     
  14. Xavier

    Xavier There's nothing like a trail of blood to find your

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    Now I know that things could have been worse this NYE. :p
     
  15. antihero

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    are you nuts?

    asking is the kiss of fucking death.Girls have been conditioned that they either say no, or they are complete sluts. :rolleyes:

    Just do. if she doesnt stop you, repeatedly, thats a yes.
     
  16. evh

    evh Active Member

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    :ugh:
     
  17. antihero

    antihero OT Supporter

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    they always say no. its like taking the last peice of pizza. you have to ask at least twice before you can eat it.
     
  18. LBFilmGuy

    LBFilmGuy LOL why u mad tho?

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    Not always hero :o

    Sometimes I ask, sometimes I know I don't need to. Just depends on the situation/girl.
     
  19. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    :hsugh: No, we don't.
     
  20. LBFilmGuy

    LBFilmGuy LOL why u mad tho?

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    He must have forgot to tell her she was making him purrrrrrrrr. :rofl:
     
  21. evh

    evh Active Member

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    miss kitty dude.. makin me purrr.. lol srsly guys?
     
  22. Kinks

    Kinks Sup. OT Supporter

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    that is epic fail :rofl:

    i wouldn't have asked her directly. smooth transition ftw - but she may still have stopped you anyway.

    given you've hooked up with her before she's obviously using you for self esteem, i'd stop wasting my time if i was you.
     
  23. LBFilmGuy

    LBFilmGuy LOL why u mad tho?

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    Just giving you a ROCK HARD time bro. :mamoru::h5:
     
  24. macbook bro

    macbook bro Guest

    just say you are going to get something "just in case"
     
  25. evh

    evh Active Member

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    someone in main suggested next time i initially say "just so you know, we're not having sex tn :)"

    i can't imagine that working though
     

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