Relationship problem need advice please

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  1. oreeo

    oreeo New Member

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    I met this gal a few months ago and I love her. However there is this other guy that has been hitting on her too. I think she loves the 2 of us. The other guy is much hotter than I am but has not yet commited to her. I knew that if I didnt make a move soon I would lose her forever so I asked her tonight to be my girlfriend. I told her I saw a future with her and we talked about kids and where we were going to live and stuff. She said she would think about it. We cuddled for a short while but she didnt kiss me. I told her that if she choose me over the other guy, she should call me on friday to let me know. If I didnt get her call I would know that she had picked the other guy over me and that I would respect her decision and not contact her any more to minimize the hurt.(I needed to make a move so I didnt get stuck in the friend zone forever!) She walked me to my car and gave me a hug. I will be txting her every morning and night this week to remind her that I love her.

    Thats my story sigh dont know what advice I can use but I guess i needed to vent more than anything. Thanks for listening!
     
  2. 04JETTA

    04JETTA OT Supporter

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    no prob good luck :wavey:
     
  3. Dreams2Reality

    Dreams2Reality saywhat

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    Don't text her everyday telling her you love her.. you're not even in a relationship with her.
     
  4. MattThom01

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    Dude...I'm a guy..and I have only 2 things to say:

    First off, you're a creepy weirdo.

    Second, how old are you, 13?

    She won't be calling you back.
     
  5. MattThom01

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    To clarify why she won't be calling you back. You're insecure and needy.

    You "ask her to be your girlfriend", then talk about "seeing a future with her" and "talked about kids". You're not even exclusive with this girl...that's a creepy talk to have.

    Texting her to tell her you love her every day? Stalk much?

    Basically, here is what she is going to see:

    Some guy she doesn't even really know saying "OMG OMG I LUVZ YOU SO MUCH!!!! BE WITH ME! BE WITH ME! WE'RE GOING TO HAVE KIDZ!"

    You're so trying to pressure her.

    In short, being needy, insecure, pathetic, and trying to pressure her will pretty much get her to never want to speak to you again.
     
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    Maj.Malfunction New Member

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    Seriously, slow the heck down. Don't text/call/contact her so damn much. It makes you seem desperate. Just tell her GENERALLY how you feel and accept what ever happens in the future.
     
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    IBNOCALL&HEASKWHY
     
  9. sapient

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    The trick I've found is being the kind of person she needs rather than the kind of person that needs her; you must offer some value to her other than puppy-love. What you're telling her with your actions is that you're insecure in yourself, afraid of being alone, and desperate. Whether or not this is true, this is the message that your actions are sending very loudly and very clearly.
     
  10. Stev

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    seriously, how old are you?
     
  11. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    :ugh: This is for real isn't it?
     
  12. Stev

    Stev Active Member

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    woah woah woah, relax. i don't know anything about the other guy but i can already guess that she's probably going to choose him :ugh:

    if i had two guys interested in me, one was super pushy and worshipped the ground i walked on and contacted me every day, and the other was laid back, relaxed, and would obviously be happy whether or not we're together... i'd go with #2 in a SECOND.

    for the love of god, don't text her that you love her every day. wtf, are you 12?
     
  14. Stev

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    this cant be real.
     
  15. MattThom01

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    we can only hope its some really really young kid.
     
  16. jazzmoney

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    The last thing you EVER want to do, is make someone choose. Because they will ALWAYS choose against whoever is making them choose. ALWAYS. I mean it... ALWAYS.
    What you instead want to do, is to allow her to have her choices, and to choose you on her own instead. Because that will make for a much more solid relationship.

    So, now that this relationship is over... Is there any other girls you might be interested in? Cause you know, girls pay attention when other girls like the same guy.
     
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    did they change the meaning of the word Love?

    if not i would be a little more careful using it
     
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    well his name is oreo
     
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    AE check plz

    and ban if he doesn't come back to the thread in like 24 hours
     
  20. antihero

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    just eject now. shes not calling. you are pathetic. Work on yourself before you bother with a woman. Any woman who would want someone so needy and insecure should be avoided like the plague.
     
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  22. oreeo

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    She called today!!! 3 days early! Thank you guys for listening! I didnt txt her since u guys said it would be a bad idea!!!

    Thank u guys for listening

    I am 25. I really liked this gal. and she was the one that started talking about family and stuff she is 21. I was just really sad that night I posted this but thanks to u guys I didnt txt her or do anything I just waited and she called
     
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  23. MattThom01

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    25...yikes
     
  24. Coottie

    Coottie BOOMER......SOONER OT Supporter

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    I really love you, will you be my g/f?
    ___ Yes
    ___ No
     
  25. ridah626

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    dont get sprung on her. do everything in moderation and dont make a move too fast lol
     

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