SRS relationship going sour

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  1. cooldragon

    cooldragon New Member

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    i have been going out with a girl for about 3 months and at first it was going great. however, recently it has gotten dull. i am losing the attraction and so is she. we have fallen into the same habits and we dont do anythin interesting.. alot of it is my fault i usually dont plan things out and we havent done anything fun together in a while. she is aways working or i am working and we end up barely seeing each other. i really like her but i think i need to step it up.

    she tells me tat i am distant sometimes which i tend to be. i dont like to get close to people and she says i should be more open. i am at lost with that cause i dont know how or what to do. i keep getting pissed because i know this relationship could be better but i tend to hold back alot.
     
  2. GregFarz78

    GregFarz78 New Member

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    Move on its over
     
  3. MattThom01

    MattThom01 New Member

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    it's only been 3 months...if you're both losing attraction, just let it go.
     
  4. seismic

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    Maybe it's just showing that you guys weren't meant to be together. Unless you're willing to examine why you're both bored and work on it, it's not worth it to keep going.
     
  5. Lazy D.

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    unless you really feel like this is all your fault for a lack of trying i would abort. 3 months and already losing attraction? not good.

    however she could be losing "attraction" bc you are being distant/dont put forth the effort in the relationship.
     
  7. METALLlC BLUE

    METALLlC BLUE New Member

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    Perhaps you're holding back because you have a valid reason. Just because you aren't aware of that reason, doesn't mean it doesn't exist.
     
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    SpectraRedZ New Member

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    Already feeling this way after 3 months? Time to let it go and move on instead of wasting more time.
     
  9. t-t-t-today

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    3 months in you should be in "puppy love" state and be having sex with each other till your blue in the face. If that's not happening the relationship wont work. end it.
     
  10. rYu

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    in a fucking relationship, one have to sacrifice a lot.
     

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