SRS Read Girlfriends E-mail...bad news bear

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  1. FrankMasterFlash

    FrankMasterFlash OT Supporter

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    Alright...so about a month ago my girlfriend broke up with me. She said that she needed time to fix things with herself becuase she is upset all the time and can't figure out why. So I'm like okay...sure I can give ya some time. Now she promised that she wasn't going to be with anyone else or hookup with anyone else. So we still talked every day and she still tells me she loves me but something was telling me that there was someone else in the picture. She told me her password a while ago and I was like I really shouldn't but I did anyway. So I read the conversation she sent herself about how she cheated on me with someone and kissed another guy.

    She called me and denied all of it. Every last word of it. Until I told her I read her email without her knowing. Then she fessed up and said it only happened once. I know I am at fault here to too but I was so pissed off I punched a hole in my wall and now every bit of trust between us is gone. I have to go to prom with her this weekend and I am just churning with rage in me. I don't know if I can talk to her anymore after this. So should I just stop talking all together and never speak to her again. Or for a while stop talking and then see what happens later on this summer? Is there any chance whatsoever that we can regain our trust or is it lost and gone forever?
    TIA
     
  2. Bleed

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    this is something you need to ask yourself. if you can accept the fact that she cheated on your and can trust her again then there is hope. personally, i wouldn't be able to get the image of her cheating out of my head and would question everything she did from here on out. realistically, you will probably never trust her again and you should just consider just slowly phasing her out of your life.

    did you go to prom with her yet?
     
  3. dave steel

    dave steel My Kung Fu is the best.

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    Tell her now that you aren't going to the prom and if she wants to go she'd better find someone a.s.a.p. You owe her no explanation, let it go at that.
     
  4. Darketernal

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    It all comes down to that she is a liar, and that you shouldn't go into a relationship expecting it to work out just because it concerns you. The prom will be a formality, plz take it in account that you broke up with her, and (although this takes time to digest) she was your EX , which is very important because that means that she is free to date other guys. But she ruined that by lying against you that she wouldn't date others, she said that because she was already seeing someone else while you 2 where dating , and because she didn't want to confront you. This typical avoidance behaviour has resulted in your anger, however i encourage you to apply this rule namely that the only cure for a lost ex-gf , is a new-gf, so looking forward for the future, and not letting this get to you, by continueing building up a relationship with someone else like she is going to do is the way to go.
     
  5. maygen mo

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    the exact same thing happened to me. i had been with my ex for 3 years and we are doing great (or so i thought) until feb when he says he needs to "find himself". he said the same bull shit about it not being about another girl and that he couldn't see himself with anyone but me and he still loved me and yada yada. turns out there was another girl and now they are together. couple months later i read his email and found out that he had cheated on me with a different girl and he cheated on his current girlfriend with the same girl he cheated on me with.

    my advice is to cut off communication. things were hard on me when he was still telling me he needed me in his life and all that bull shit. i finally said i had had enough and haven't talked to him in over a month. sure it's hard but all it takes is time. good luck to you.
     
  6. CrimsonVonDoom

    CrimsonVonDoom There Cannot be Two Skies OT Supporter

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    you HAVE to go to prom with her? you dont HAVE to do anything.

    no more than you HAD to destroy perfectly good sheetrock. don't let shit she did fuck up your life any more than it has to, man.
     
  7. Peyomp

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    Wait, was the extent of the cheating a kiss? I'm not clear on whether it was sex, or just a kiss. If it was just a kiss, then get over it pal. If it was more, then refer to Dave Steel's post.

    As to the sheetrock, tear a piece of the paint/paper off of the edge of the wall, at least a full square inch, take it to home depot for paint matching (get the smallest amount they will sell you), a small roller and roll (fine grainage), a tub of pre-mixed spackling compound, and a wide scraper. Get a small piece of fine sandpaper too. Also get the smallest pack of compound powder they have. Tear away all excess/broken sheetrock. Take a large gob of compound (may want to put a drop cloth down) and start at the top of the hole and move down. Its okay if some gets in the hole. Repeat until its covered. To make the edges smooth so as to avoid sanding, bend the blade of the scraper so that only the far side is touching... then go over each side like that, then once more down the middle. In order to get it to dry fast, throw a little bit of the powder all over the compound. You may have to do another thin layer when this one dries. Sand, and paint.

    As you do this, try to imagine the hole as the hole in your soul that you feel at this time, and that you are fixing it, and not just a wall.

    If only your heart were so easy to repair? ;)
     
  8. WellChosen

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    I understand where your comming from. Dont take any of this the wrong way bro. Your still in high school. BELIEVE ME! girls are not worth it. YES u think you found that ONE girl, and your probably in love. But its not really love man. maybe it is you never know. but if it was she would of never cheated on you in the first place. What my experience has taught me is that girls are a dime a dozen. DO NOT stay stuck on one girl. DO NOT wait for one girl. Your probably only 18. Imagine when you go off to college, if you decide to. how many people you will meet. Not just girls but a whole new social life begins, TRUST ME its better you found out now than when it was too late. Ive seen this happen with friends and if you give back trust to her, your always going to have that in the back of your head and it wont be the same as it used to before. HOpe i helped, i dint mean to offend or mean for you to take any of it the wrong way just my two cents.
     
  9. johan

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    Time to move on. And fix your wall as per Asylum's handyman/poet's instructions.
     
  10. thepornokid

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    I couldnt agree more.
     
  11. Peyomp

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    Did she cheat? Sounds like just a kiss, which ain't cheating. Its just a fuck-up, but not that serious.
     
  12. Jaccordan

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    :ugh: Kisss =Cheating

    Id leave my feonce on the day of our wedding if i found out she kissed osmeone
     
  13. johan

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    Naw, a kiss is recoverable.

    Full on sweaty screamer sex...well, that's up to you, but generally folks find it harder to rebuild after something like that.
     
  14. Peyomp

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    Yeah, man... cock in ass, ecstasy... hard to forgive. Kiss... get over it.
     
  15. diazfordork

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    that's what i think too - that a kiss is recoverable. except how do you convince the other person to get over it (in a nice way of course)?

    i had been in a serious relationship with my now ex, but my bi-curiousity got the better of me when i became attracted to someone of the same sex. of course - i told my now ex from the very start about these new feelings - and i was given permission to explore. and i did - with only a kiss - but as soon as that had happened, i was forced with an ultimatum --> either my serious relationship, or my bi-curiosity. i lied (for the first time to my now ex) because i couldn't just leave my serious relationship for something so transient, but i also couldn't leave and just forget about these feelings barely discovered - it was something that should be my own decision. Anyway, it was just a kiss and even after i had lied, it went nothing further than a kiss - can you blame me completely?
     
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    she wanted space allright.....space for another man's throbbing uncircumsized member to savagly penetrate every offifice in her body.
     
  17. Peyomp

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    The fact that he hasn't replied tells me that it was just a kiss, and this thread is bullshit?
     
  18. FrankMasterFlash

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    sorry...haven't checked back in a while...I've been busy with Finals and whatnot...but she says it was only a kiss...and Nothing More
     
  19. Peyomp

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    So, if you believe her... then get over it.
     
  20. DreamStylez

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    FRANK......Thats funny the exact same thing happenned to me, I was having doubts about her cheating so I checked her email...anyhow I dont think your in the wrong, cause otherwise you prob wouldnt of found out right?? And if you didnt know,what if you guys got back together after wards, thats would suck not knowing that she cheated.

    My advice is Forget about her....and screw the prom!!!!
     
  21. mtnbike4522

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    id stand her ass up on the night of the prom
     
  22. Peyomp

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    She breaks up with him... he invades her privacy and finds out she kissed another guy... and he's pissed, why? This whole thread is rediculous. Stay away from her... not for you, but because she undoubtedly deserves someone more mature.
     

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