rant: online dating

Discussion in 'Vaginarium' started by Sure why not?, Nov 26, 2008.

  1. Sure why not?

    Sure why not? New Member

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    Messaged a woman on some generic dating website and talked on AIM. She's just the personality I like, just my type of looks, just my type of everything, except she lives 162 miles away:rant: Why can't I meet anyone like this close to me?
     
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    Amanda Ann New Member

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    You should start searching closer to your location? :dunno: Just a suggestion...
     
  3. Ideotique

    Ideotique Drinking on monday nights does not make me an alco

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    Not online dating's fault.

    Can't you search by location though?
     
  4. JordanClarkson

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    For someone who's very compatible, 162 miles is nothing. I've been talking to a girl in IL for the past few weeks. :big grin:
     
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  5. Ideotique

    Ideotique Drinking on monday nights does not make me an alco

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    Can beat that.

    I'm in Australia, she's in the UK. Close to 11,000 miles :mamoru:
     
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    yeh, that's suuuuch a long way. like 90 min. fuck that!
     
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    meet up at a McDonalds half way?
     
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    meet at a resturant half way. Make sure a hotel is close by. Problem solved.


    162 miles is NOTHING. I dated a chick in cincinnati when I lived in knoxville. I saw her every weekend one way or another. We met half way or one of us drove to the other.
     
  9. Sure why not?

    Sure why not? New Member

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    - I do search close to my location.

    - This was one of those sites where they reccomend people to you and instantly put you in a chat together. We imeediately hit it off.

    - No 162 miles isn't far, but I've done the long distance thing for the last 5 years. I would like to see someone a little closer this time.

    - Lauren 88 miles was 90 mins for me all highway driving with the last one and that was everyweekend. It takes a toll on your car, and money spent on gas racks up.
     
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    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    Wait... where the fuck don't you live?
     
  11. Diesel66

    Diesel66 My standards for women is like rent-a-centers stan OT Supporter

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    closer to 3 hours


    First step is don't even bother messaging anyone past a certain distance. It's just not worth the aggravation.
     
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    Then get the fuck off the internet meat shops and go out and meet real, live women. Can't get any closer than that.
     
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    because you are inside, talking to girls that live 162 miles away online
     
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    :rofl:
     
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    Man Bear Pig Banned

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    The only time online dating should be used is when you are unable to see your feet.
     
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    Its a difficult concept, give him time. :rofl:
     
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    I don't even want to get into a LDR, but this girl handles all the bs I give her with poise and so I've told her the only way it'll work is if she moves out to CA.
     
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    Ideotique Drinking on monday nights does not make me an alco

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    Hint for the newcomers. They are on websites like that because they are so messed up they scare people away in the real world
     
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    I do goto bars and clubs and book stores, and coffee shops and the grocery store looking for women. I was just doing online as another way to see who else was out there.

    On the topic of why I'm talking to someone 162 miles away: The dating website matches people and throws you into an instant message with them. We just happened to hit it off and I find her very attractive.
     
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    so make her come see you.

    problem solved.
     
  22. Viper

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    Do you actually approach women in these situations or do you just go to these places expecting "something to happen"?
     
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    Yes I approach girls as often as I can. It's just very often that you hit it off immediately like I did with this girl.
     
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    That's because it's different online than it is in the real world.

    Go ahead, try meeting her and see how well you "hit it off" in that meeting.

    You hit it off so well, because the entire relationship exists in YOUR mind alone and is not based on anything real. So you are making of it what YOU think and you fill in the gaps with your own interpretation.
     
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    werd. You think you develop all this chemistry and closness over IM, so you think if/when you meet it will all be smooth and sweet and fun...then you meet, and it's as awkward as meeting a complete stranger.

    Then you go home and wonder why it wasn't like what you thought it was going to be.

    Online dating sites are fine to use, just stick to local women, and if you don't meet them in person within a few days, move on. Do not continue talking to a local woman if she won't meet you. It sounds odd, but you're better off NOT getting to know a person that much online before meeting in person.
     

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