I'm interested in what motivates people to assume either dominant or submissive roles in their sexual behavior. There has to be more to it than "it just feels good" or "I like it". Our attitudes and behaviors are shaped by our experiences and our environment, so it's only natural that our sexual desires are similarly influenced as well. For Submissives: Are you in a position of authority at work and consequently enjoy the feeling of losing control in a sexual relationship? Did something you experienced as a child or adolescent spur this desire? Do you have feelings of low self-esteem or low self-worth and think you somehow deserve to be humiliated, degraded, or have someone's will imposed upon you? For Dominants: Were you hurt physically or emotionally by a woman and feel this is a way assert some authority or exact "revenge" on women? Are you in a subordinate position at work or otherwise unable to assert yourself in life and choose women with low self-esteem in order to assume an authoritative role in a sexual/intimate relationship? Did something you experienced as a child or adolescent spur this desire? What do you get out of subjecting someone to humiliation, discomfort, or degradation? It is not my intention to ridicule or criticise anyone for their sexual behavior. I am interested in what events and experiences shaped you into the sexual being that you are today. I realize that there are men who are submissives and females who are dominants, but among participants in this forum women seem to be submissive and males seem to be dominant, so I addressed my questions accordingly. I also realize that many of these questions have negative connotations, but are there really any positive aspects of our psyche that leads us what people consider "deviant" sexual behavior? Again, this is not meant to inflame, but rather to initiate thoughtful discussion in a psychological vein to discover what leads people to assume these roles.